Hello Stevie,

Sometimes relationships can be so tricky and weird and we try so hard to figure them out and we can't.  Sometimes the 'why's' are too difficult to understand.  And there are times when certain things that happen to us has nothing to do with us, but we are too blinded by love to see it.  I belive that based on what you explained is a clear example of that.  I think there is a bigger issue here and it is for your ex to work out, not you.  You can't and will not be able to please every person you come in contact with especially if there is some underlining issue that they need to resolve with their own mindset.  You have given and done all you could.  At some point you have to say you have tried and let it go.  Allow her to get her mind together.  The more you put on pressure to get back with her, the more you are not allowing her to heal from whatever emotional baggage she is carrying around and trying to fix. Allow her to put herself back together, and if you two are meant to be, it will happen.  But you cannot stop your watch and wait.  You have got to move on otherwise you will not be good for her or anybody else.  As hurtful as this may sound, have you ever thought that this is probably not the one for you?  You cannot become recluse and close the door and hope that she'll come around.  You have got to be stronger than that.  Pull yourself up and live.  Don't despair.  You have done all you could and be happy knowing that you have.  Wish her well and move on.  The hurt will pass.  I wish you luck.  Take care Stevie.