I have pregnated one of my girlfriends and i am ...

Jeff, you need to sit down and have an honest heart to heart with your girlfriend. I am stuck on the fact that you used the word girlfriend in plural. Is there more then one girlfriend in the picture? If you are not ready to have a marriage then you need to tell her this. I hope that you will be there for her and the baby, even if you chose not to tie the knot.

you need to be honest and upfront with the girl.you also need to take the responsibility if she decides to keep the baby. you didn't say if she is keeping it. maybe she's not ready either and aborts or puts it up for adoption. if the last two are chosen, be there for her as it will probrably be a difficult time for her too. i too was not ready, or rather, didn't feel ready, in all the ways you described. however, things change, you will realize that this is not the end but a new beginning. maybe a chance for you to change what you thought was important in your life, to what really is important. you were man enough to make the baby, now be man enough to take care of it. there is a saying, ' any guy can be a dad, but it takes a man to be a father'. it isn't the end of the world and the potential for joy far outweighs the sense of fear you now feel. i've got two boys, so i know the feeling.

I agree with what Chris said.  I will howerver add that if she keeps the baby & you still don't want to be a part of the child's life you should still step up financially & help to support him/her.  One last comment...  Speaking as a mother I hope that you are more careful (and responsible)in the future (you mentioned that you "pregnated" 

you got one of your girlfriends pregnant and you have more than one it seems you better think with your head instead of down below do you care how she feels did you tell her there are more than her in your life its not good to play around you will end up paying in the end