Hello dominique i wanted to ask you a question im ...

Not Dominique, but how did you end up in this fix? I know how, but I guess the question is why?  You are asking what you should do after the horse is out of the barn so to speak. How old are you and your boyfriend? Do you both want to keep the child or do you feel it would be better put up for adoption? You haven't explained any of basic feeling about what your parents think, will they stick by you if you decide to keep it, or anything about sex being a one time thing, or much about anything.Maybe it will be a false alarm and you will have learned what can happen if it were a real situation. Let us know, and good luck.

I say that talk to your bf about it. but like a "what if" question. to see what he say to that. and based on his answer decide whether you should tell him that the "what if" question is what had happened. or what you think is happenin. because sooner or later he will find out. so don't delay it for too long.

If your under age the first thing you both need to do is tell your parents and his , too.  Next, no matter the age see a doctor.  Discuss with him your plans to go thru with pregnancy, raise the child,  seek out adoption, or abortion.  He can help with most of these choices, or steer in the direction needed to an appropriate agency.  Make a solid plan before the blessed event and follow up with the responsibility of parenting.  Take parenting classes [not just Lamaze] on how to raise a child.  Children do now come with manuals.  [new book just out ~ forgot author's name]  Read and use it.  Dr. Spock's Baby Book can be very helpful also.  If your going to raise baby start stocking up on supplies. You'll need lots.  Never can have too much.  ~~ Good luck!

hi lisamontez.

have you talked to your boyfriend about this? if you havent, you definately need to! and have you talked to your parents? that will help too. talking to the people close to you will help you cope with your stress and fears right now. ask them what do they think will be best for you, keeping it, aborition or adoption.

the whole thing is on you. you need to sit down and think for yourself and think about what is best for your health and wellbeing. do you think you are ready for a child, to take care of it and provide for it? do you really even want to have a child, whether you give it up or not? or do you want to go through pregnancy and give it to someone less fortunate? think about all theses topics on your own and then get loved one's advice too.

if it were me in your shoes, i'd be scared, but i'd know i have options. i would definately get an abortion if it werent too late already and i would talk to my moms. moms always know what to do, and they will help. dont be afraid to tell your loved ones. they'd rather hear the truth than hear nothing at all, and sit and wonder whats wrong with her. let them know. and go to your doctor or a public health clinic if you dont have one. you really need to get on this quick, the faster you make your choices and decide what you want to do, the sooner it can be over (or less stressful.)

and if you guys are still having unprotected sex after this whole baby thing (have it or not) then get on birth control (preferbly the Nuva Ring). being on birth control is one thing to protect yourself. and although its hard to not use a condom, use it. you never know what your boyfriend will give you. its very sad to say, but trust no one. getting a STD is very devistating and not fun. and its hard to know what you have sometimes, like HPV. that can become a scary one!

good luck to you lisamontez. i really want you to think about it and make the choice that will fit you.

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Here are two links that can help. One is to Planned Parenthood and the other is to Birthright. Both organizations will be willing to help you no matter what your circumstances.

www.plannedparenthood.org

www.birthright.org