I am 20yrs old my boyfriend is 33. he has a 11yr ...

Diana, why do you feel like you have to hide your relationship with this man? Sometimes to make our dreams come true we need to take a leap of faith. Do you really believe that his kids or your friends cant handle your relationship OR is it you that can't? If this relationship is going to go anywhere (including getting married and having kids) you need to go public with it. Talk to your boyfriend about what it means to tell others about your relationship, your fears, the good and the bad. By talking about it, you are taking a step forward together to become closer to your hopes and dreams.

I agree with Sara, if he loves you, he will respect your wishes and take your relationship to the next level.  If he still wants to keep your relationship a secret then that is a clear sign that he is just taking advantage of the situation - he wants his cake and eat it!  There is also a possibility that he wants to keep it quiet so he is free to see other people without them knowing about you.

It is very hard but try to be brave and confront the issue.

Good luck.

if you really care about him then tell him how you feel,and let him tell you what he wants.then and only then can you proceed

why doesn't anyone know you're dating him except your close friends?why are you hiding this?

listen, i'm a guy with kids. if i'm dating someone for one year and haven't told my kids, well, to put it bluntly, your a booty call until you decide to do something. confront him with your wishes of making a stronger relationship. if he is negative to this, your 20, go find someone that will appreciate you and want to build a family. love is a finicky thing, and finding someone that wants you front and centre is hard. this guy may be afraid himself of looking like a cradle robber, no offence. but there is  a big age difference, and though we make it sound cool, having a girlfriend that is 20 when we are mid thirty's, our friends wont think the relationship will last. if this is your love, he will be receptive to your wishes of a family and public aknowledgement. if he doesn't care you will know soon enough. best of luck from a guy's point of view

Like others have said, there's no reason to hide your relationship with him.  If he's that hard set on hding the relationship there's not much of a relationship going on.  Have you talked to him about the fact that you want to marry and have kids someday?  If you do, or have, and he's totally against it, he's probably not the man for you since his dreams and yours are so far apart.  Take a chance and talk to him about it if you havent already.  The only way you'll know what he wants is to ask :)