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lovelyady
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"The significance of a man is not in what he attains but in what he longs to attain."

How do i regain his trust & reliability

I feel horrible cos i kissed some1 other than my boyfriend. I didnt have sex with this guy.We've been 2gether for 3years now & neither of us had ever cheated on the other, not until i did. I tried to hide it but i couldnt. I tried to lie(i know i shouldnt have) cos I knew how much it will hurt him if i told him the truth. At the same time, I was scared of his reaction after telling him... I had to tell him anyway & he got so hurt. it broke his heart so bad. I apologized to him and he took me back in. But things are alil bit different now... he mentions it almost everyday & says he will find it hard to trust me that much as he used to & i'll have 2make him trust me again as he used2. I understand him, cos if places where switched, i will feel the same way. So please can y'all give me some ideas on the little things i need to do to earn/gain his complete trust again?If not all his trust, at least, much of it? He hasn't ever hurt me physically and rarely has he, emotionally. All he has done is being committed/devoted to me, &love me unconditionally. He has always put me first in everything. I wonna make it up to him; I dont wonna loose him. What steps do I need to take? What things do I need to do? How do I fix this?


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Jackyp
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All that you can do to win back his trust is to make efforts to show him how you feel about him. You need to be 100% dedicated to him and constantly do little things to show him you care. Show him that you only have eyes for him. Mens' egos are fragile and you hurt him partly by betraying his trust, and partly by making him feel like he could not fully satisfy you on his own. Just make sure to make him feel desired and special. It will take a while and require much patience to win back his trust, but if you love him it is worth it. Good luck.

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"The significance of a man is not in what he attains but in what he longs to attain."

Thank you so much for the concern. I feel devastated and mad at myself for not controlling my emotions just this one time after all these years of being together. I really dont wonna loose him :-( I spend sleepless nights, crying, feel so horrible to have done such a thing... Yeah, some people say what if the worst happened- sex, what would i have done? But to me, its like what i did is equivalent to that and it kills me inside... I try to put myself in his place every moment and its so hard....

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Building back trust between partners  after a crisis is quite difficult. It takes a lot of time and consistency. If you really are in love with him like you mentioned you've got to work hard. I think you should always notify him where you are at and what you are doing, even if he doesn't ask you to. Let him know you are constantly thinking about him . Let him know he is your man . Needless to say the use of the phrase " I love you". Show him how much fun you two have/had together make sure he knows you regret what you have done. Most important learn from your mistakes.

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angelkiss
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Fool me once,

shame on you!!

Fool me twice,shame on me!

the only way you can win jis trust,is to not cheat on him!why would you kiss another guy when you are in love with somebody else?maybe this relationship isn't giving you all that you need!
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i dont know why , every single line wrote by you coincides with my life story may be the guy you are talking is same as me and i know how really he is feeling right now because the same is felt by me every moment. ya but at least i can give you that advice what i wish my partner should read . never ever in future recall these memories what you had with the other guy ,dont keep any thing related to that person with you because if your partner sees it then it will hurt him the most ,yes because it hurted me the most. i know he may check your mobile may call you to check wether your cell is free or busy ,  dont question him on this . i hope you really love him and i know he also loves you or else he may not have forgiven you if he loyal to you . just show how much you love him and care for him but not by phsical love but by mental and emotional love phsical love can support it but dont prefer it. never let him down again ,that may completely break him. i hope the answer i am giving to you will be read by her(my partner) someday or the other .

good luck and pray for my relationship
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