Reasonable Expectations!

Yes, my dear, you've got it right. We raise our kids so that they can grow up into responsible, self-sufficient adults. We try, but sometimes we fail through no fault of our own.

Maybe your daughter's expectations are unrealistic. Maybe she does not realize that the promise of happiness is not achieved easily. That sometimes we have to forego the promise of fulfillment and struggle to achieve the minimum. For, as you must be aware of, life ain't no rose garden.

Generally speaking, I think you're on the right path as far as your expectations. Your daughter has to learn what life is all about. May I suggest that you go to my website, check out the recommended book and read Chapter 17, "I Don't Want to Argue With You" which reflects a similar situation as the one you have with your daughter.