Why did i get raped

Hi,

You were raped through NO FAULT OF YOUR OWN. You should internalize this message so that you come to believe that you were not at fault. The person who did this to you has a weak character and used you to prove his supposed strength. There are several hot lines for women who find themselves in the same unfortunate situation, can call for advice and especially much needed support.

You can prevent other unfortunate women being raped by reporting this monster to the police to ensure he is put away. Above all, get on with your life and I hope that you will find happiness and self-fulfillment eventually. Try to close the door on this trauma. I wish you all the best. 

Dear KatLover, I don't know the cercumstances that lead to the rape. I can tell you this though! "It wasn't your fault". There is in todays world as there were 100's of years ago low lifes. These low lifes have no respect for them selves and others. They rape women to show their mascunlinity towards the opesite sex. They were either miss treated as a child or neglected or even abused. So as they grow into a man or even into a woman they still have this reminder in the back of their brain that has been knocked into them that they are no good, worthless, or compleatly unwanted. Most raper's are either abused or neglected as a child. This is the only way they know how to get the love that they so despertly crave.  It wasn't your fault so don't even think it was. Please try to put it behind you and get on with your life. They do have rape centers for people that have been raped or abused in most states. I suggest that you get professional help in dealing with this. Because if you don't then it's going to eat at you the rest of your life and you in turn will have a love less life because you will be afraid to let anyone get close to you. So please try to get help, there are just to many people in this world today that just don't care about any one but them selves and what they can get or take from others. You have to care about yourself before any one will care about  you. I know you are trying to figure it out on your own, but you never will find that answer with out help!

Like others have said: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You are not responsible for anyone else's actions EVER. Once you realize that, you can begin to heal.

Bad things happen, terrible things like you have experienced, constantly and all of over the world. Pain. It is not something we as people can truly understand. That doesn't make it easier to accept, I imagine, but the important thing is you're not alone. Don't isolate yourself!! Talk to someone, get help immediately. The person who did this to you tried to take away your choice, your dignity. Don't let his actions decide your tomorrow.

Take action. Take control.

Peace be with you, Kat and I hope you win your battle.