MY QUESTION: WOULD YOU ACCEPT THE FACT THAT STACY’S MOTHER DOES NOT CARE THAT STACY GOES TO THE 99 CENT STORE.
PART ONE: THIS HAPPENED YESTERDAY: Stacy buys blouses, sweaters and blazers at the 99 store and they really are gorgeous. She goes every other day and buys a few or more than a few. Yesterday she went and purchased about twelve blouses (both for summer and winter). This morning the following took place:
Stacy: “Mom I am going to go out for about an hour”
Mom: “To the 99 cent store”
Stacy: “Yes”
Mom: “You just went yesterday and don’t you think you have enough, you don’t have enough storage room, it is becoming obsessive. I don’t care how much of a good buy it is”
Stacy went anyway. She went to get the three blouses she left behind yesterday. When Stacy came home her mom was reading a book and then they both decided to have lunch.
After lunch Stacy went to check her e-mail:
Stacy: “Mom I received the email from Annie” (Annie is Stacy’s cousin and her mom came into Stacy’s room to hear about the email)
Mom: “Ok what did Annie say.”
Stacy: “She liked my message about the book”
Mom: “So what did you buy today”
Stacy showed her mom and her mom loved it
PART TWO: UPDATE THIS HAPPENED TODAY: They were in Kohls. Stacy buys pants, coats, in Kohls but sweaters, blazers and blouses at the 99 cent Store. Here is the conversation:
Stacy: “Mom after we leave here I am going to see what they have at the 99 cent store, do you want to go withme”
Mom: “No I don’t but you can go. Why don’t you wait and go tomorrow - I will drive you over since I have to pass that way any way”
Stacy: “Well I was going to go today”
Mom: “You don’t have the money, I mean even if it is a good bargain”
Then about an hour later when they were home
Stacy: “Mom do you care that Igo to the 99 cent store”
Mom: “NO, DEFINITELY NOT, but you don’t have to go twice a day”
AND HERE ARE MORE THINGS:
BACKGROUND: Most of the time Stacy (54 years old) goes ALONE to the 99 cent store to buy the clothes. Sometimes she will go with her mom (in her 80‘s). When Stacy goes by herself she always comes home with the gorgeous stuff (items from Talbot’s, Old Navy, etc) and her mom loves the stuff that Stacy brings home. When Stacy goes with her mother her mother comments.
HERE ARE THE THINGS HER MOM SAYS NOT ALL AT ONCE BUT AT VARIOUS TIMES
(1) That is short, you don’t like short” (when they are at the 99 cent store)
(2)“Look it over to make sure it is in good condition” (when they are at the 99 cent store)
(3) “I only told you that it didn’t look good because you weren’t sure if you liked it or not” (when they are at the 99 cent store)
(4) “Even though it is gorgeous I like the other one better if I was going to wear it”(when they are at the 99 cent store)
(5) “I do love that turtleneck you picked out but thick turtlenecks bother me” (when they are at the 99 cent store)
(6) “I only told you what I thought because you asked me if I liked it or not” (when they are at the 99 cent store)
(7) ““But you don’t have to be obsessive. I mean it isn’t like you don’t have anything to wear”” (AT HOME)
(8) “You just went” (AT HOME)
(9) “You are not working right now you have to be careful with your money” and her mom will first say that the 99 cent store is NOT included and then when they fight her mom includes the 99 cent store.
(10) Aren’t you going to be hot in that blouse. It is going to be a hot summer day
11) Well what you are wearing is not nice. I cant let you go out of the house like that”*she said this when they were fighting
(12) People should wear what is appropriate for the weather” she said this when Stacy said well what would happen if I wore a material that might not be cool for the summer
(13) Buy what you want, and I buy what I want but you don’t have to talk about it.”
(14) I buy the food, and I am supporting you. But do you realize you are rubbing it in
(15) I am working I cannot go to the 99 cent store or Kohl’s or any place like that to shop. You are home and shopping. I mean you talk about shopping constantly. I don’t want to hear it anymore
(16) I don’t care what you buy but you don’t have to talk about it. They are pretty but again I don’t want to hear about it. When you get a job you can talk to me about your job
HOWEVER, WHEN STACY GOES BY HERSELF THIS IS WHAT HER MOTHER SAYS WHEN STACY COMES HOME:
(1) “I love what you got - I want it.” (AT HOME)
(2) “I love that and I am going to take that from you” (AT HOME)
(3) “Get me that” (AT HOME)
STACY AND HER MOM WILL SAY THE FOLLOWING WHEN THEY ARE AT THE 99 CENT STORE:
(1) “Mom you always make comments” which her mother replied: “I am allowed to say something and I am allowed not to like something”
(2) “Mom I feel you would have said something about the ones you loved that I brought home if you had come with me on those outings here” which her mother replied “No I wouldn’t have because they are beautiful. And it is your problem if you feel this way, not mine”
(3) Her mother also says “You really lack self-esteem”
(3) Her mom also says “You know Stacy sometimes you tell me you don’t like an article of clothing I buy, but if I really like it you could stand on your head and I wouldn’t care if you liked it or not because I do.