It would take a textbook on psychology to properly answer your question, but here goes:
1) Nice guys don't always win the evolutionary race.
Neanderthals were apparently nice, intelligent folks who stayed home and hunted or cultivated food from their local area and made toys and stuff in their spare time for their families to enjoy. They were supposedly peaceful intelligent folks who kept to themselves.
They were wiped out by mean pack creatures who would rather get together in gangs and bully and steal. We evolved from the meanies. Eventually they had to get partly civilized to prevent extinction via civil war but we still have much of the bully in our genes.
Game theory and simian behavior can be used to predict what situations are likely to promote cooperation or bullying. E.g. If an environment requires cooperation to secure life's essentials (especially safety from competing groups) loyal cooperative groups will form. If no major external menace exists persecution of people different from the norm will increase or civil war will erupt. This is especially so if resources are seen to be scarce, but even in high prosperity the greedy may still seek more than what is needed.
2) Violence is learned.
The prevailing culture being presented to our youth is one glorifying violence. E.g. Gangster Rap, War heroes
Permissive parenting and general permissiveness of society do not encourage moral courage or caring for others.
Political and legal system is based on idea of winners and losers, where any gains for others must mean you loose out. This promotes competition rather than cooperative policies. E.g. feeding the poor might have a 1% drop in profits for the rich; or decreasing the war budget might loose contracts which your home town is getting jobs from.
If the USA used all its resources for a coordinated plan to improve the standard of living for all, it would not be expensive to reduce poverty related crime, or provide basic health and employment for all citizens.
Sadly however the common belief may be true; that such cooperative methods go against human nature. Competitive greed is the preferred basis of modern capitalism.
Even if we do not need to have a society based on greed, hate and fear, it is unlikely that the momentum of global commercialism and the corruption evil in the global society is likely to be easily turned around.
3) Needs
E.g. Maslows "Needs hierarchy".
Youths (and people in general) firstly need basic survival security, then they look for social belonging and identity, and later look for self expression and finally helping others and intellectual and spiritual pondering.
If theses and other needs of youth are not provided by civilized society they will be met by gangs or popular culture such as media violence.