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I am really jealous of my younger sister's career ...

I am really jealous of my younger sister's career success. we are very close and my only saving grace she does not know how I feel inside, as that I am her biggest fan and i always encourage her when she is feeling down and congrat her when everything works out wonderfully. It is even worse now because i am unemployed and i tried everything to market myself (I got a degree, a very stable working history, learn languages etc), where as my sister has not, (she is currently doing a degree paid for by her current employer!). Her job is absolutely wonderful! she does the same work that I did, except she is the office manager where as i was always a PA (basically they are the same thing because we only work in small offices of 1 or 3 persons) . her salary is twice as much as my old job and she only work 5 days a week without having any OT whereas I worked very hard for very little. It is so unfair, am i really doomed? I always thought hardwork will get you everywhere along with a positive attitude, (my sister needs constant praise and flattery, or she will put herself down). What am i doing wrong? i HATE feeling this envy, I feel like crying everytime she phones to tell me good news, just now she told me her company is expanding and she will be hiring 4 employees to work under her direction and she will be getting her own room. I have been going for months without work and have asked her for help which she naturally has gave me including me working for her company for a few months and also referred me to a couple of interviews. i am really really depressed, mainly as i don't understand why some people get all the luck!! it is not her fault, so i would appreciate some help into understand how to keep envy under cover. I am writing every day into a journal, positive affirmatives and count my blessings but it is not working, i have been keeping this happy journal for over 2 years and I have been unemployed for that amount of time. My sister is a job hopper and seem to have gone from a better job to an even better one each time. She is not the most confident person ever, so i don't understand. i would appreciate it if you could give me some helpful remedies


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First of all, some people just are lucky. There's no way to explain it, but you must remember, that what goes up, must come down eventually. That aside, it's not wrong for you to be happy for your sister, and to also be jealous. It sounds to me though like you put a lot of energy into her that you should be putting into yourself. I know that it's easier to say 'think positive' than to actually do it, but you really must stay positive. You can't keep comparing yourself to other people, especially your sister. You need to market yourself as a strong, positive and confident woman. Once that is the energy that is coming off of you, you will see your luck start coming in Smile .

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