I'm 36,female and have NEVER had any sexual desire ...

this answer unfortunately i find completely patronising.at the age of 36 at some point in my life i would have experience a little desire even if by myself!i don;t think you quite understand, there is no desire, not a flicker, never has been and you are not the 1st person to say this answer when its not understood.this included my close friends and family but they do now.i think also there is an image of me being some kind of unattractive bloater to look at too for some reason due to the content of my question but i am not.i haven't put a picture up due to wanting to remain annomymous.on the occasions i have felt 'swept off my feet', i remain numb from the waist down! thanks anyway

i had hypnotherapy a few years ago with no help/outcome etc.the therapist seemed almost out of desperation thro many sessions ( & cost!) to come up with that conclusion!but it wasn't formed from anything i discussed with him, he said he was going to try put some images in my mind to try trigger something.so he would go through scenarios of my dad abusing me.i found this rediculous!!!maybe sounding defensive but i had an amazing and happy upbringing from both my parents which you don't recognise until you're older!it was always fun.and if you can't remember the event, how do you deal with it?surely you need to recall the emotion it caused to create some kind of solution?possibly my experience wasn't a good one?i do agree this can happen but don't believe it was this in my case.thank you

it does bother me, hence why i seek so many avenues to try find a solution.  i wouldn't have put the question on here if it didn't bother me to see if anyone had any ideas or experiences similar themselves.its very hard to date with this.i tend to knock the relationship on the head almost before it starts now because the longer you date, the closer you are to having sex.its not easy telling someone and unfortunately when i have it seems to have caused a problem.for the majority, sex is important in the relationship even though over time it may not be quite so regular!however, i will keep looking for someone who is ok with it!