Our daughter is 21,in a go-nowhere relationship ...

It sounds like she wants to work these things out on her own. Relationships are somewhat personal and this one has gone down a difficult road for her and she may be a little embarrassed having had personal things exposed about herself to her parents. I know you are worried about her. Might be a good idea to send her a message something like "just want to know your ok", and have faith that she can resolve these issues on her own.Hope this helps.

It is very difficult for parents to let go. Your daughter at 21 is legally considered an adult and expected to lead her own life. I am sure she feels bad about the broken relationship and the way she decided to deal with it. Try sending her messages of love and support and give her the space she neds to work things out on her own. I am sure that in time she will reconnect with you.

I had a similar problem seven years ago and another is ongoing - with the same daughter.  At 19 she decided she had to be with a man who was abusive, and it took her over a year to find out what we'd been trying to say to her for a long time.  She left him when her baby was three months old and divorced him soon after.  Then she met a man who was the exact opposite - they had a son and he adopted her daughter.  Recently she left him for someone else - and moved out without her two kids, which has torn us apart.  We're having a terrible time dealing with the situation. Yes, she is grown and an adult, but it hurts to see our relationship upset like this.  I believe in telling my kids what I think (when asked) and she knows how I feel about this recent escapade.  But the thing I learned before was to make sure she had a safe place to go to when she needed it, so I don't want to alienate her completely even though I so strongly disagree, and am hurt by, what she's doing.  Somehow I hope we will re-achieve the close relationship we had, but for now I email her and if she doesn't respond I do get upset with her and sometimes have to YELL at her, but I've tried to email her n a tone that is loving and supportive while still not backing down on my beliefs.  I wish you the best of luck - I know exactly what you're going through.

She's experimenting and enjoying life. No need to be worried.

She has its life from no on and you have to accept this. 

Get real and think about...why do you are really so worried? It's because you have some emotions and beliefs that aren't helping neither you nor her.

Probably you didn't like the answer. I don't care because is much more real. And go and shut down your own internal thoughts and look from her perspective and you will find the real answer.(It will take a while)

I have to agree with DarkMeLegendary.  Some of us coming into Adulthood just want to be free to make our own decisions, and make our mistakes without feeling like we are letting everyone down.. being a disappointment, especially to our Parents.  I ran off to Atlanta GA when I was 21 because I felt like my Family "and some friends' had me under a microscope, watching my every move, always with their 2 cents,.. so to speak, and I just wanted to be free to venture out and explore,  not bother or hurt anybody!

It actually helped me a lot to be on my own for awhile, to realize who I am as an individual, away from all the people who thought they knew what was best for me.  Some of us just need more space to grow than others.  What ever you do, don't worry, just Pray that you've taught her well, and that she will be safe.

I'm wondering how many of these responses were from parents.  Your perspective changes when you become one.  When you raise a child to adulthood, you learn to identify in his or her behavior signs of danger, and in some people, running away or cutting off communication is a clear and resonant message that there's something dangerous going on.  I'm not talking about trying to run your kid's life, or trying to interfere or be disappointed or upset or angry by what he or she does.  But Pat Robertson's original question seemed to imply that red flags had been raised and that she might have reason to worry.  Unfortunately, there's no answer to the question, and her daughter is going to do what she wants; all she can do is make cert