I participate in a small group therapy session weekly. I am female. There is one guy in the group who seems to be quite pitiful...unattractive, never speaks and when he does, only mentions his grandmother, father and sister. He has no other relationships, does not seem to have much of a life, other than his job. When he mentioned his adversion to gays once, I asked him if he was secure in his sexuality. Of course, he said yes. I remember months ago mentioning to my husband that this guy struck me as the type that would someday snap and take out a bunch of people with a rifle. As luck would have it...he seems to have taken an interest in me. He knows that I am married, with children, but asked if we could play tennis sometime. I told him he could play with my husband and me, and left it at that. Last week, he seemed intent on sitting next to me in group, somehing he has not really done before. One of the other members painfully talked about the breakup of a 3 year relationship he had been in. As we were getting up to leave, the guy next to me looked at me and asked..."I wonder if she (referring to the woman from the 3 year relationship) works out at LA Fitness?" (referring to the guy who snapped recently because women showed him no interest, turned off the lights at LA Fitness, and starting shooting.) I notified our group leader of this comment. He assured me that nothing in this man's psychiatric evaluation pointed to anything dangerous, but he has terrified me with his question. I don't want to be anywhere near him. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? Should I stay away, out of fear, or confront this man as to the meaning of his comment, in our group setting?
