I am so confused. My boyfriend and I met in Thailand, he's from France and I am from South Africa. I agreed to him leaving his country to live with me in Bangkok. We had known each other 2 months and decided to live together. He didn't get a job and things were so difficult. Eventually my contract ended and we went back to our respective countries. Now he wants me to live with him in France. I feel guilty that he has sacrificed so much to be with me, and now I am too afraid to tell him I am not sure of the relationship.... He has spent so much of his savings and I feel so bad that I can't think straight. I feel moving to his country means a greater commitment than I am ready for. It means putting money down on a flat and it also influences where he chooses his job. He has such strong ideas and is difficult to talk too and I feel manipulated and misunderstood. On the other hand I am bad at expressing my feelings and needs. What must I do? I can't sleep and am going through a personal crisis. On one level I love him, on another level I resent him (for his dogmatic way of thinking and controlling behavior). At the same time he can be so loving and affectionate. I crave it because I never got it growing up. Please help.
