Hi Rebbeca,
I'll give you an honest answer: I doen't start with what other people think about you. It starts with what you think about yourself and consequently how do you treat yourself. If you think you are: nice, smart, good-looking, friendly, plesant, loving, carring, etc.... you'll treat yourself as such and all the world will react to it in the same way (You transmit it, the world will receive it and transmit back 2U in the same wavelength).
Have a nice weekend,