i have been with my boyfriend for 9 years everything went great for awhile and then the last 4 years of our relationship has been very abusive. I did cheat on him a few times and i really thnk this is what caused it so i learned to take it day after day just thinkin i deserved it, and i still felt very attracted to him and sexually. I had our son who is 2 now. He then would beat me in front of him and make me say goodbye to hima and make me feel like i wasnt going to see him again after that i said this is it. When he finally realized that i wasnt trying anymore to be there for him or us he changed everything has been like they use to be but now im no longer physically attracted to him i dont like to kiss him or even hug him and have sex. I really do wantot make it work b/c we do have a son and he has changed for the better but how do i overcome me not wanting to be intimate with him anymore what do i do?????
You are in a toxic relationship that is going downhill quick. Report the physical abuse to the police, and have your boyfriend arrested. You don't deserve this.
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I agree with the above post from Iamjustcurious. You should leave this man. Once an abuser, always an abuser. He will hit you again in front of the child because of some look you give him, or the cold shoulder you are giving him. Any excuse he can use to abuse you and the boy will turn him into the monster he truly is. Anyone who wants his 2 year old son to watch while the child's mother is being beaten or even verbally abused is a monster. Follow your own feelings. They are telling you all you need to know. Leave and take the child.
Your behavior was deplorable, but no one should suffer abuse. Get out of this relationship before he kills you. Get counseling. Staying together for the child is very harming to the child's developing personality. I suffered an abusive marriage starting in 1964 when there were no shelters or help like there is now. Avail yourself of these services. p.s. After staying single for 11 years, I have now been happily married for 32 years!
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