first of all, if everyone has told you this, surely it's not true. but i do know what you mean, ive been there before so many times, and i know that just words arent usually enough.
try googling "BMI" or "body mass index". this is a scientific system that should tell you. if you still dont believe it, try making a list of all the things that you DO like about your size or yourself. this will help raise your confidence and help you believe that you are beautiful and not fat.