How do you get a person you love back?

Momi,

I've tried. Unfortunately, after the first couple phone calls and flowers, you unintentionally become a stalker. Then you basically have no chance. You can try to remain friends. If you choose this path, then you need to go on with your life - date others, get out and do things, etc. Otherwise the object of your affections will end up feeling that you're only being friends in the hopes that it will get you back in the game. At that point, you again have no chance.

Your best bet overall is to move on as much as possible. It will hurt. You may feel like you'd rather be dead. With one very intense relationship, I was so hurt by the break-up that I ended up checking myself into a psychiatric hospital for a week. It's an extreme situation, but I was able to get the support I needed to heal while I was there. It took years for me to heal, and there were several relationships ruined by the shadow of that one, but in the end, when I let go, I was able to find someone else who is a better match for me. 

Ignore her.  Move on and live the best life you can.  Your life will improve...she may notice that the breakup didn't impact you and she realize what she is missing.  Also consider that maybe it just wasn't meant to be.  Were you happy and did the relationship fill your voids?  Are you just feeling alone?  Get out there and create another life....one more exciting.  Do things that you enjoy and who knows...you will probably meet someone else....exercise always helps...take action.

There's no guarantees that you can , of course - but how long have you been apart, and how and why did you break up? Whose choice was it? Have either of you moved on to other loves since then? Does she have a new sweetheart?

If she has someone new in her life, it's best for you to step out of the picture gracefully. Let her know - if it is true - that you are sorry that things ended between the two of you, and that you would like to see her again in the future if things change. Be a true friend to her, if she's open to that. But don't lurk, and don't hope for or try to engineer a break-up with her current sweetheart. That isn't the way a true friend would behave, and it isn't loving.

If she hasn't moved on, do the same, and be willing to be her friend if she is open to it. Can you love her as a friend if that's all she's ready for? Do you love her that much? Be available and supportive, and prove that to her. 

If she will not allow you to do that, move on. It's her loss at that point. I know that is hard, but doing otherwise will just cause bitterness.

Good luck to you. 

You cannot MAKE someone love you.

Love sometimes means letting go.  You can let her know how you feel, but after you have made it clear, if she is not interested then it is best for you to seek other interests.  Love as a one way street is not fulfilling to either party.

Perhaps it is time for you both to move on.  If it isn't, then you will naturally come together as you both seek ways to grow.  Sometimes people separate for a time and find that they both do want to reunite.  Sometimes they don't.  But, I think if it is meant to be, even breaks from one another will not keep you apart.

There is nothing anyone can do to make someone love them.  It seems a person either loves us or they don't.  But as you grow strong in yourself, you will find that you attract more love to you, because you are not blocking it with worry. 

Remain open to the possibility that even better things await you if this does not work out.

Sometimes too, a person can care deeply about us, even love us, but they have another path they must take.  It isn't really a judgement about either party, just that life is pulling you in different directions. 

omgsh ive been through this. Ok you cant make someone come back.lets put it that way. i loved my bf so much even after he made me cry.when he dumped me,i thought i died. so i held onto his heart hoping he would come bak. but he didnt.he had moved on so i do. but if you love her so much,stick with her until ur ready to let her go.theres no guarenteeing she'll come bak.

First of all you should give time and space for that other person to realize how much he truly cares about you. If by any chance he decides to call you without any arguments if you truly love him give him all the love and attention you might of not giving him in the past. very important talk things out that might of bothered you'll or is still bothering.

Hi,

   You posted this question 2 years ago.  Did you resolve this problem?

Any updates?