How do you get a person you love back?

You cannot MAKE someone love you.

You don't.

There's no guarantees that you can , of course - but how long have you been apart, and how and why did you break up? Whose choice was it? Have either of you moved on to other loves since then? Does she have a new sweetheart?

If she has someone new in her life, it's best for you to step out of the picture gracefully. Let her know - if it is true - that you are sorry that things ended between the two of you, and that you would like to see her again in the future if things change. Be a true friend to her, if she's open to that. But don't lurk, and don't hope for or try to engineer a break-up with her current sweetheart. That isn't the way a true friend would behave, and it isn't loving.

If she hasn't moved on, do the same, and be willing to be her friend if she is open to it. Can you love her as a friend if that's all she's ready for? Do you love her that much? Be available and supportive, and prove that to her. 

If she will not allow you to do that, move on. It's her loss at that point. I know that is hard, but doing otherwise will just cause bitterness.

Good luck to you. 

you can get someone back you love, hoping you never did anything bad to lose them in the first place, talk it through and do something special for them, if it doesnt work the first time, if at first you dont suceed, you know the rest

Can you make someone fall back in love with you? Of Course you can. But it's more about you than it is about them. If you were with this person at some point (not counting one-nighter's or short-term flings), there were things about you that made them fall for you and things about you that made them fall back. As long as those things don't include sleeping with her best friend/sister/mom, you should be fine. If you don't know what those are, you're out of luck.

 But if you do, then you have all the ammo you need.

If you are dead set on getting someone back, you must work as hard as possible to eliminate those habits or vices that got under their skin. Quit smoking, work out, go vegan, whatever. Also, try to enhance those parts of you that were most liked. Read more, save more, perfect that thing you do with your tongue...since you know this person, you know what makes them pay attention. Finally, talk to other women. Make sure you understand completely (from a female POV) how you got in in the first place, why you lost what you lost and how to prevent it. The best way to win someone back is to show them you've grown into a better option and if they'd only stayed a little longer, they'd have you.

Don't change who you are for her, but upgrade your status in her eyes. If the two of you were meant to be, and she hasn't completely changed as a person, she'll notice, and she'll remember that she had those great qualities of yours all to herself at one point. If she doesn't, it's win-win: you'll know that she's delusional.

Love sometimes means letting go.  You can let her know how you feel, but after you have made it clear, if she is not interested then it is best for you to seek other interests.  Love as a one way street is not fulfilling to either party.

Perhaps it is time for you both to move on.  If it isn't, then you will naturally come together as you both seek ways to grow.  Sometimes people separate for a time and find that they both do want to reunite.  Sometimes they don't.  But, I think if it is meant to be, even breaks from one another will not keep you apart.

There is nothing anyone can do to make someone love them.  It seems a person either loves us or they don't.  But as you grow strong in yourself, you will find that you attract more love to you, because you are not blocking it with worry. 

Remain open to the possibility that even better things await you if this does not work out.

Sometimes too, a person can care deeply about us, even love us, but they have another path they must take.  It isn't really a judgement about either party, just that life is pulling you in different directions. 

Well this is a tough thing you're going through....and it's pretty difficult to win her back if at all that's possible...well you can go through

Momi,

I've tried. Unfortunately, after the first couple phone calls and flowers, you unintentionally become a stalker. Then you basically have no chance. You can try to remain friends. If you choose this path, then you need to go on with your life - date others, get out and do things, etc. Otherwise the object of your affections will end up feeling that you're only being friends in the hopes that it will get you back in the game. At that point, you again have no chance.

Your best bet overall is to move on as much as possible. It will hurt. You may feel like you'd rather be dead. With one very intense relationship, I was so hurt by the break-up that I ended up checking myself into a psychiatric hospital for a week. It's an extreme situation, but I was able to get the support I needed to heal while I was there. It took years for me to heal, and there were several relationships ruined by the shadow of that one, but in the end, when I let go, I was able to find someone else who is a better match for me.