· If your parents did not approve of a person you loved and wanted to marry, would that be a difficult situation for you? Why/Why not?

Hi Mr T,

     It depends on the reason my parents did not approve of my chosen marital partner.  Perhaps their wisdom is greater than mine. If they could convince me I was making a bad choice, I might listen.  When I got engaged at age 20, my father disapproved.  He thought I was too young and thought I could do better choosing a marriage partner.  My husband asked my father's permission to marry me (when that was done way back when).  My father said no.  Yes, it bothered me that my father said no, even though my relationship with my father was not that close.  I was very much in love, and decided to make my own decision and go ahead with the marriage.  We have since been married many years and still love each other. My father grew to respect my husband as did my mother.  Of course, I would have wanted my parents' approval as it would have made me more secure in my choice of a partner, and would have given me the feeling that my husband was accepted into our family. I was very happy and you want others to feel that same happiness for you.  The Power of Love is very strong, however, and I am glad I went ahead with my own choice.  It wasn't all a piece of cake, we had our ups and downs, but that's part of most marriages that last.

I would find out specifically why my parents didn't approve.  Is it a legitimate reason like the person is not motivated, rude & disrespectful, abusive, doing illegal things, etc.  These are understandable reasons because they will affect your quality of life, security, goals and aspirations. 

Or is it a questionable reason like they don't like your partners skin color or ethnic background.  These are less important excuses that shouldn't affect a persons love and devotion to someone.

If you are young they probably want you to live life a little more, and have different encounters and experiences.

My good friend didn't agree to an arranged marriage.  Her parents are from India and had strong ethnic values.  She decided to marry the man she loved, a black man from a different state.  Her parents didn't approve because of his skin color, and didn't look at the fact that he was a doctor that loved and adored their daughter. Although it was difficult at first, the parents realized that he was the perfect choice for her.  After 6yrs of marriage (the parents didn't attend the wedding) and 2 children later, the parents are slowly accepting her choice.  It wasn't an easy road, but she believed in her choice and went into it with open eyes.

Hope this helps, good luck.

i would imagine so... but you would have to hope that they would eventually come around.

jack - salt lake city caterer

Well of course, that would surely be a difficult situation for me. On one hand its my parents and on the other hand its the person whom I love the most and want to spend the rest of my life. But I would not marry without my parent's approval.

Yes it would be a very difficult situation without parents agreeing for marraige .

marriage si not between couple though they get married individually they are connected with respective parents afterall its a blood relation . Emotional stress has to be undergone for them a lot . better convince your parents first than get married .