My parents admitted to hating my boyfriend

Hi,

If you want to make your parents happy, take a piece of paper and a pen and ask them what their concerns are about your boyfriend. Don't answer any of them on the spot, just write them down and say you'll think about it and see how you feel.

It may be really hard to avoid telling them your side, but it will give you some time to see what things they're saying are valid and what isn't. If you argue on the spot, you're much more likely to feel like you need to defend your boyfriend.

As for the email, I do understand both your dad's concern and your need for privacy. In the meantime, open an account somewhere else (e.g., yahoo, google, hotmail) and password protect it. Stay out of trouble so that your parents don't need to worry about you :-)

You don't mention how old you and your bf are. If you are both under 18, I think your parents have every right to interfere. If you are both older your parents can give their opinions but cannot force it on you because you should both be mature enough to make these decisions.

Try to meet with your parents when you feel relaxed and have calmed down. Listen to their objections and tell them you need some time to think over their objections. To make you feel somewhat better I have found that some times where the boys parents wanted their daughters to marry and did marry, the marriage ended in divorce. Remember that it is your life and it is you and not your parents who will spend the rest of your life with.

The same holds for your e-mails.