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Am I paranoid or is there something going on?

My boyfriend is currently back home for winter break, and has been for the past month. Lately he hasn't been returning my calls or answering my messages, and I hate to wonder, but can't help to wonder if he may be cheating. Is he just busy or is he really doing something he shouldn't be? He's never done anything like this before, as far as I know and he's always been very good about returning my calls. He's always very attentive to me as well, am I just paranoid or is there something going on?


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Yes, you should wonder.  If he used to answer your calls and messages and now he stopped that means that something chanced and you have to find out what it is.... However he is not necessarily cheating, there can be other reasons.  Why be in doubt ? - talk to him, clear that point with him.  Any good relations are based on 4 pillars: Trust + Openess + Communications + respect.  If you want good relations you have to built the trust between the two of you. 
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You are right, there is something occuring within your relationship.

There are other considerations here.

For instance, are you calling him a great deal (is it more than once a day when there are actually no plans occuring?). Perhaps there was too much communication, or at least, telling and he has to listen.  I don't really know if that is occuring or not, but it could be a possibility.

Maybe he feels that the relationship is going so well that he doesn't need to respond to each and every request as he feels there is a deep rapport with you.

Maybe he just isn't that into you anymore.  He might just be avoiding you, not even seeing anyone else because he isn't into you.

Probably the last one is more likely.  Some guys would rather avoid a confrontation (which is inevitable) so they don't have to see how they make women cry. 

So yes, there is "something going on" but you won't know what it is, until you ask him and are ready to listen.

 


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Woman are very good with instincts, but choose to ignore the painful ones, when you hear the river it's becuase it's got running water. Regardless of how busy he may be he has always found time for u. One is never! To busy for their mate this often. Something is entertaining him! Look into it! And no! You are not paranoid!


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