Im over-protective over by boyfriend, how can i stop !

My boyfriend and I moved to different countries for university lately, and it hasnt been that easy. Hes in boston, and im in canada, and it isnt that far, but we dont see each other all the time! and we have our different lives now. Before seperating we used to be so close, if any girl bothered me he wouldnt talk to her, just to prove to me that no one is as important to him as me, and i would do the same. Before seperating we talked about this whole long distance relationship, and he told me we cant be soo controlling over each other, because were going to have our own friends and groups, we have to trust each other, be honest , and most important thing is to love each other. We have been together for a year and 5 months now, (1 month in a haf doing the whole long distance thing) but i get soo bothered when i see him talking to other girls on facebook, or if i see him in pictures wid girls, or going to parties with them, im not used to this, because were always together, and we used to share the same friends before, so it wouldnt bother me if i saw him in pics wid my girl friends. He used to be really over protective, and now hes soo chill about everything, and im still soo jealous and sad when i see him with other girls, i dont know what to do! i know what hes doing isnt wrong, and i know he would never cheat on me, hes soo faithful its not even funny! but because of how i feel, its ruining this relationship!

sometimes i would see pics of him with other girls, when he told me hes goin out withe the guys, i feel he  stopped telling me things now not to bother me.

i have to stop getting jealous , and being overprotective to keep this relationship going, but we fight when he hides things from me , and doesnt tell me.

Its just hard when we started a relationship in a certain way, and now it has to change becuase we dont live together, its hard..

help :(


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Hi Julie,

     I fully understand what you're going through.  I would be jealous too if I'd see my boyfriend with someone else.

    How long are you both going to be in college and separated due to studies?  I hope it's not another 3 years.  You won't survive this if it's that long.

    If I were you,  I'd also have some friends both females and males from your class and sometimes do things with them like go bowling, and other activities on your free time.  But I don't know how your boyfriend and you  could have a lot of free time when you really concentrate on your studies.

    A good relationship has trust, openness and honesty.  If you don't have trust , the relationship will not likely to survive.  This distance and absence will test both of you if you are meant  for each other.

    I wish you the best and hopefully your relationship is going to remain strong and both of you won't give in to temptations.


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