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Can't orgasm during sex

Is it normal that I can't orgasm while having sex? Any ideas how I can? I usually fake it because I have only been able to cum during oral sex.


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Hi,


Faking is not the solution.  You have all the rights to enjoy orgasm and even enjoy multiple-orgasms.  The best way is: Find (normally by youself) what is the best way for you to reach orgasm and after knowing that "teach" / "guid" your partner (how, where, when, what) what is your prefered way.  You should explain to him that if he cooporates the sex you'll have will be far better for you both.  It's not time 2B shy, it's time for excellent sex !.  Take the initiative, don't fake.  If you prefer to start with oral sex that's perfectly OK. 
Best regards,

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Only about 30% of all women can reach orgasm in penetration. It's totally normal and quite common that you can't. However there's a difference between not being able to have an orgasm in penetration and not being able to have orgasm in sex.

Sex isn't just penetration there are a lot of other ways you and your partner can both enjoy sex without you having to fake it and have orgasms, how about oral sex, how about sex toys, how about a hand job?!

The movie ideal of ending every sexual interaction in a mutual simultaneous orgasm is really misleading and totally not true to life.


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I have found that sometimes to have an orgasm during intercourse requires a little help. After all our foreplay and we are both really hot and ready if you use a vibrator on yourself while he is inside of you the feeling is increadible, for both you and him. We have tried it with my legs over his shoulders or even doggie style is great, just use your imaganation and enjoyTongue out


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Yes, don't fake it, ever! Enjoy each sexual experience for what it is! The advice you have been given above contains some excellent suggestions.

 

As a man, I have found that very few women experience orgasm during intercourse. In the movies, of course, women have a "big O" everytime they have sex, always accompanied by incredible noises, loud moaning and thrashing about as they ready to climax. Basically, I (and my partner) am stlll waiting for such a movie-like experience. Some women get this somewhat false idea that they should orgasm during sex for it to be successful.

 

Personally, I do not expect a woman to orgasm. It's great for both of us when it happens. My male friends and I all feel the same way. From the male's perspective, the sexual encounter would not be considered a failure if her climax did not occur. However my friends and I agree: should the woman be caught faking it, we would be disappointed and annoyed. Not a good way to end the otherwise great encounter.


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I had the same problem..try getting on top!Definatly fore-play a little just to get the heat on


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I agree on top works best for me and if all else fails, do it yourself when he is not around- amazing how easy it is to make  yourself cum with your  favourite vibrator!Wink


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