i am 43 my husband is 59. married for 14 yrs. i ...

Its not crazy, it is wrong. Do you really think that you can keep this a secret for five years? What guarantee do you have that, at the end of 5 years, you will both want to divorce your respective spouses and get married? How do you think your children will react when they discover that each of you has cheated on their unsuspecting parent? Think of the consequences.

2 1/2 hours = viagra. Not love. I thought you were looking for an orgasm. Oral stimulation is what you need until you have a orgasm some lose the ability to have a orgasm during intercourse. 5 yr. plan come on get real. You marry an older guy for certain reasons then they get near 60 and you think he should respond like a 38 yr. old dream on.

ok.. I for one reason or another can't understand how you can hurt both your children and your husband and his wife all for what?? an orgasm??  so my answer to you is like Rosie said.. its not crazy its WRONG.. on sooo many levels i can not even begin to list them... I firmly believe the reason you cannot achieve an orgasm is mental.. you know what you are doing is wrong and therefore cannot fully let yourself go... stop hurting the innocents in your life...

Hi,

    The concensus here is that what you are doing is wrong, immoral, not crazy.  How can you make love to your husband after you do it with your lover?  It looks like what you have with the other man is just pure LUST, not love.  LUST does not last forever.

WOW! first off.  now down to the truth the situation is difficult. when it comes to having an orgasm two things come into play really the physical reaction but mainly your mind. you may be thinking to much about getting one actually having yourself not reach that point(guilty conscience). i'm not a fan of infidelity becuase marriage is sacred but if you can not reach an orgasm even with someone outside of your marriage something more serious is effecting you. seeking outside of your marriage carries alot of consequences i would consider seeking professional help to get to the root of your problem. also making plans with another man you barely know is not a good idea look at what the relationship is based on now. who is not to say that 1o years down the row if you consider jumping ship that this gentleman will not consider reenacting the same actions with another female because with you he feels the same way he did with his current wife. cherish what you already have and work on it. you've been together 14 years so obviously he is still doing something right. try stimulating yourself or try spicing up your marriage heck you already are with someone else so bring that into your bedroom you might start a spark in your husband.  encourage positive change before you quit!