OH this 56 year old woman know's the answer! I didn't have an orgasm on my clitoris until I reached my early 40's. Such a shame. You have to find your G-spot. If you don't know where it is, you can't tell him. Lie on your back and insert 2 fingers toward your belly button. You will feel a "patch". It may be as small as a pea or as large (lucky you) as a walnut. It may just feel like a "rough spot". This is your G-spot. Rub it slow or hard, (up to you) and you will reach climax. If you feel like you have to urinate, keep going.... but slow down. It will happen. I did not know this until I went to an adult party. The Pure Romance lady explaned what to do. I now have my man do what I want every single time. What a difference! I now tap him on the back at night, when I used to HATE that tap. Good luck honey. It's there, just find it!