Jim,
I think women only have orgasm's when everything is just right. Everything from the tone, the play, how much foreplay was involved, was there a lot of kissing, fondling? Men who think that just because you had intercourse a woman will have an orgasm but not true most women I think have the orgasm during the foreplay and / or afterplay. A woman's body has to be in a certain position for her to feel the motion and the friction across her clitoris during intercourse. As far as coming back, How did she leave was she happy or sad, to figure out that you need to replay the time you spent with her was she satisfied, How many lanes do you want the bridge from Florida to the Bahama's. Women don't think like we do so who know's. I have found some women like persistence while other's would rather space Is she an agressor or an agressee, once you figure that out you have some of it figured out. Good luck next time if it is a next time, whatever it takes should be your main focus! Give her what she needs so she'll get her orgasm before you enjoy yours, a sometimes not so simple plan but if you have that mentality before you begin then the greater the outcome. You have to give yourself an E for effort.