Can I keep my online love interested?

I do know people who have met online and it seems to work for them.  Two couples married that I know of, but I've only kept in touch with one and they are still married.  Another friend is now dating someone he met on line and they seem to be okay.  I have heard many horror stories of course, and so have you.

The way to keep things interesting is to have an interesting life so you have things to talk about.  Develop some more interests, or go places so you have stuff to talk about.  Learn to do some of the things that he likes to do and you can share your experiences when you chat.  He can be your teacher, and that will give him things to talk about.

You shouldn't give up on relationships.  You should learn how to have better ones.  I'm sure there are lots of people giving advice on that subject.

Can you guys get a web-cam connection going? "Sight unseen" usually means being in love with the idea of being in love, and the internet is the perfect place for that, but it's only the barest beginning. If you went to a divorce class you should have heard that a "too soon" relationship usually results in the same type of person you just left. Sounds like you want someone to confirm both your hopes and fears, all of which are valid. What I hear you saying is that you really don't believe him, despite all the positive net chatter, but you hope you're wrong. You really need to "eyeball" this guy to get the fuller effect, because the most important elements of attraction depend on actual physical sight and contact. You can't get those all-important cues online. Sounds like you understand this so you're a smart girl, and you probably understand that when you make fear of losing a new relationship its' primary focus, then you severely limit its' growth potential, and instead appear needy and insecure. Focus on seeing him for what he is, not what you need him to be. For that, you will have to do some face-to-face, where the rubber meets the road, when he gets home. Have faith in yourself, it's the only thing that will allow others to have faith in you.

That's what friends usually do, support you unconditionally, but most times that doesn't give you any new information or point of view. I'm glad to offer you something original. Relationships are never a waste of time, we're social animals and need them. The only problem is sometimes we need them too much, and go to extraordinary measures. That doesn't mean that your connection with this guy isn't worth anything, it just means you've both placed certain controls on the relationship building process that aren't found in the "natural" course of things, and  those controls have run their course and now you need that face-to-face to confirm. That's why it feels sort of stale to you now. Keep your options open. Hope springs eternal, but every rose has its' thorn.

i have been in this situation befor and i felt the same way b\and for almost a year i didnt let anybody of the oposit sex into my life as a relationship and after that i started trying again and once again the same shit happend to me but i was determend to find the m,an of my dreams no matter how many times i fell for a guy that has hurt me and to this day i still havent but u have to beileve in fate all u can do is try if not u will never now what could have happend and ull regret it and what you can do is not tell him really really person stuff but just keep asking questions and kepping things fresh learn things about each other that you didnt now and even though you think you might no everything i can garentee you that you dont and that what you should do

I've been married for the past year and a half to a guy I met online and have not seen for about 4 month after we started talking. We had a long distance relationship for almost a year before I finally moved from Israel to New York to be together. I know other couples who this happened to and I'm sure this will just happen more and more.

So, as for your first question - yes, it happens and it works! at least for some people.

As far as bored - I don't think a relationship is about entertaining one another,  I think that if he would find you boring, he would find you boring in reality or online, the medium really doesn't matter. I think that to keep things going and to make the relationship a good one, it's really important to talk a lot and to talk often. We used IM and had web cams and we basically had them on all the time, we'd watch each other sleep and have meals together and just spend a lot of time together, which is a good thing for any relationship. We actually used this time apart to built very good communication patters based on words and honesty, because when it's an on line thing, you can't escape to sex or fix things with a hug or a kiss. 5 month is a long time, but if you are serious about it and if he is, you can totally make it work for you.