I work with this guy and he's much older then me, like he is married and all that junk, yeah i know it's kind of creepy and freaks me out lol. So when i first started thinking that he had taken a liking to me it was awhile back because he would always come through my line even though he didn't really talk and every time i saw him anywhere he would always be looking at me even if i wasn't looking at him or trying too. Don't get me wrong, he isn't one of those weird fat older guys he's cute and some people think so too but anyways, the last couple months have been confusing because he's just been doing weird things like he won't really pay attention to me anymore and it's like he tries his hardest to avoid me. Then one day he was talking to this other kid for awhile and during that time sometime they looked straight at me and i had no idea why, i even try my hardest not to look at him back but sometimes it just happens and is just weird. Idk if he's just being like this because he's a guy, or he knows/thinks i like him, or it really isn't anything and he doesn't think any of that at all. I'm totally confused...
This is really bothering me so i need to get it off my chest. i saw the same guy today like a thousand times because he had to keep walking back and fourth to do stuff for his job and i swear every single time he went back, this guy can't help staring at me, i don't care he can look all he wants i don't see what the big deal is. The only problem i have with it is when he leaves, it's like he tries to ignore me and he'll go through a totally different line.
The only thing i can think of is that there's feelings there and he's married so that's his way of hiding it. It shouldn't matter though because he has a this other close relationship with this younger lady he works with and even though there both married everyone thinks it's more than that because they do everything together, they even go home at the sametime...friends with benefits? i think so.
From an older womans perspective, when a married man seemingly is hitting on you there are two things to do; 1. ignore it, you are young and it is unwise to encourage the sitution. 2.If this person makes you feel uncomfortable you flat out tell him and to knock it off. If the behavior gets worse REPORT HIM.
"Be strong in nature; Gentle in deed."
I have to agree with Mary. I am a woman in my early 40's, and from my perspective, if he's married, shame on him for gawking! My advice to you would be to completely and totally avoid getting involved with this guy...you said it yourself, he's much older and married...getting involved with him would bring nothing but trouble and heartache for you.
thanks, i don't even know really what is going on all i know is that he has looked at me here and there sometimes and now all of sudden he's just not gonna do it anymore and go about his business like seriously. I even caught him today looking at me when i wasnt even paying attention i just looked up and i was somewhat far away and maybe he just happened to be looking in that direction but it was more like staring at me more than anything so i looked for like a good minute then i went back to what i was doing and he did whatever and left
That is a very good idea of just ignoring it and i have been trying too ever since i figured this out because it's kind of weird in a way and i don't have those feelings about him and just the fact he's married and old enough probably to my dad lol so, it's just hard when you have to work with this person but hopefully things will get better
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