Good Evening April: Hey I asked my husband why it was so hard for him to tell me that he loved me early in our relationship his answer surprised me "he said he wasn't sure if what he felt was love, then he went on to tell me that he never saw anyone show love other than the love that his mother showed them and she never said it. She was so busy trying to keep them fed with no help. It made sense to me after I thought about it, I know from my education that we are all born with the ability to love but we have to have some training of some kind to show it. So if you never see it. Or if the only kind of love you see is when one person hurts the other maybe you don't want love if it hurts. He also told me it was the little things I did for him that let him know that I really did love him, like making his favorite meal, snuggling while watching tv, letting him have his space with out me. My first husband died suddenly from a massive heart attack. I had a small son still at home, I never pushed a relationship between them, but I think he fell in love with my son before he did with me. He is so good to my son he treats him like he belongs to him. I could not have found anyone to be as good to us as he has been, of course we have our ups and downs but all couples do. Just show that you love him I guess that speaks louder than words it worked for me. Good Luck and don't give up.