Screemen1, I think I need you now. How do I get in touch with you? I need advice, my son needs more....I don't need to be blamed for my son's decisions. That is unfair. (not anything you have said, but above, yes) I never did drugs, never abused alcohol, never made excuses for things he did, trust me, I was always on top of things. I know it is not my fault, as a parent, my son and his girlfriend, and friends, got into this. BUT it is a fact. He WILL go to jail. I did everything right, as a parent....so, to blame me, is unrealistic. After a certain age friends have a bigger influence. His fault, BUT MY son....I still care about him and worry. Yeah, he needs to be taught a lesson. I just don't think 5-10 years in STATE prison will be the answer. Some time in jail, yes, might teach him a lesson. Part of me wants him to get totally off, probation, AS A MOTHER, but as a logical person.....No, I think if he gets only probation....it won't be enough. I do not blame myself. He made his decisins ON his OWN. I do not drink, or do drugs, and my son and I had always been close. UP until the past 6 months..when he took up with a new crowd and a new girl. I KNEW something was wrong, as he didn't look well. Stopped talking to me, for advice on anything. I thought he was ill, at one point...he denied any problems. I thought he was ill, he showed no signs of drug/alcohol abuse. None, ever. YES, it IS possible to hide these things from you parent/parents. Thank you, Screeman1, you seem to understand.
Linda? GET real! We can bring out kids up perfectly. Once their peers are the major influence in their lives (as in ALL kids) parents, are in the background. We can be there for them, help them, stand on our heads, It's the FRIENDS who have more of an influence, and NOT all of our children can stand up to peer pressure. Good luck with yours, if you have any? HOW OLD? . Even people over 50, have been known to start a bad habit/addiction. Is that their parent's fault, too? You are not not living in today's world, BUT if you are, and your kids are doing great...Honestly? I am happy for you....and anyone else....despite all the bad things out there, your kids are fine....I am happy. Mine was too.....I wish he stayed that way. He's not fine now.
