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I need some advice from a intellegent person.

I need help on giving someone advice. This girl i know cuts herself and recently its gotten worse. I know its not for attention because she trys to hide it. I want to help here but every time i try she gets mad at me. Im not sure what to do but i think i have to do something....


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Your friend is lucky to have you. She needs supportive friends to help her deal with her problem. She is cutting herself to cope with her life. You will not be able to get her to stop. She needs professional help. What you can do is listen to her. Rather than talk about the cutting talk about what is bothering her. Encourage her to talk to a trusted adult or parent. There are also many self help books on self injury at the library. She is going to get angry at you for trying to help. Just keep reminding her that you are worried about her and care enough to help.

Posted 2007-06-27T13:35:38Z
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You got to aproach to her gently and try to calm her. Obiously she go trough some stressfull situation and maybe she need some psychological help. If you achieve to make nice friendly contact try to make longer conversations. For that is need longer period. After that try offer to her some help first from you then from some therapeutyst.

Posted 2007-07-28T19:14:57Z
 
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Wink LOVIN' LIFE!!!

Actually i use to be a cutter. I realize it gave me a release of all of the negativity in my life and my body would come out when the blood did! Most do not want to kill themselves we just need to "drain" some of the negativity out. As soon as you feel the pain and then see the blood you finally get a release that you can't explain but we feel it helps us keep our sanity if that makes any sense. I quit doing it about 7 yrs. ago but when things got really bad i would at least sleep with a knife under my pillow. It just made me feel better. But i was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and got some help even though i really thought i had it under control but i have read a couple of books and just hearing other peoples stories made me feel i was not alone because believe me you think you are so screwed up that your not worthy of getting help! I advise that you do everything in your power to help her! Maby you can get a book and let her read that she's not unsaveable and other people have survived it. She must have some "very" underlined issues deep down that she's fighting we usually do. I started cutting my thighs so people wouldn't see it and no we don't do this for attention.  We just have to get the negative feeling out!! Try to get a book for her to read about it and maybe this will help! I don't know how old she is but i started when i was 17 and didn't stop until i was around 26. My sister noticed it. I always wore alot of bracelets to hide it. And i made really good excuses when someone noticed it but my sister saw through me and MADE me get help or she was going to call the mobil crises unit to come get me and i agreed to Help. I really hope she gets help their has got to be a reason why she's depressed or feels guilty about something or maybe a problem buried from long ago but good look to you and maybe you can talk to a counselor for her if she won't go! Good Luck to you and your friend and she's lucky to have someone PAYING ATTENTION!!

Sincerely,

dbdaisy 

 

Posted 2007-09-17T20:41:09Z
 
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Maturity is learning to accept responsibility for our own life!

Your friend needs help from responsible adults who understand her problem. Letting her parents know might be a first step but if her parents are critical, demanding and possibly abusive then look to a school or church adult who can help. Search the local mental health clinics, hospitals, women's support lines, help lines etc. until you get in touch with someone who is local to you and can help. Then go with your friend to whomever you both choose. Don't stop just because the first person you meet isn't the right one for her.

Much of today's music and media focuses on what's wrong with women and not what is wonderful about being a woman. Cutting can be an outward sign of an inner hurt that doesn't show because it is not the type of hurt that produces bruises and cuts. Emotional and verbal abuse can be behind it as can sexual abuse. There are better ways to deal with this than cutting to feel the pain.

Good luck! 

Posted 2007-10-09T13:16:24Z
 
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Get medical help!!!!!!!!!

Posted 2007-11-24T01:56:44Z
 
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Get her help and get her help now.  Contact a school counselor or contact a therapist in a hospital.  You do not need to give them your name.  She needs help - ignoring the problem is not the right solution.  Good luck.

Posted 2008-04-05T18:59:19Z
 
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Innocentthe best gift in life is life itself.

life is precious but in the eyes of someone who is depressed or just deeply sad it can become hard for them to see the beauty that is surrounding them from the inside out. dbdaisy is right. You feel unworthy,ugly,and angery.  Alot of the time that person is hard on their self almost like unforgiving mixed with the pain other's may causeit  hurts so much you feel  so much hate for yourself the only way to relieve it is to cut ure self. It does release pain & anger, but it always comes back.  She does need help; you just need to be carefull with they way u approach her on this very serious matter. There are so many different reason's on why ppl cut themselves. I know that low self of esteem  can be a cause but more than likely it is a bigger issue to go along with loss of self worthness. For now talk to her and remember her state of mind is fragile. Let her know u care about her. Try to make her realize that u are concerned and u wanna know more about her situation ask her what were some of the reason's of what caused her to cut. It can get frustrating but never give up on her. This is a sickness a diesease a addiction. Always show her u love her and try to get her to open up so that maybe she will allow u 2 know what are the causes. You can save her life by just being a loving friend. best of luck 2 u both. my heart goes out to u and her.

Posted 2008-06-03T20:11:57Z
 

she need a good friends who can talk anything in her heart.

Posted 2009-04-28T18:13:32Z

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