I need ADULT opinions. Would you be mad...Is this ok?: My husband and I have been married 2 years.We've been together for 3. This sounds crazy but we have a terrific marriage BUT Im still trying a bit to get over his past mistake that occured PRIOR to asking me to marry him. I was about 99% Over it when this little thing occured. Im a bit gun shy, he cheated on me just before he asked me to marry him although we were exclusive. He cheated in April, asked me in June. 1 week after we were married I found out that a baby from the little mistake wasd born 1 week prior to our wedding. He said to me and his mother while in tears that he knew he would have to tell me yet didnt want to unless forced because he thought I would leave ( good answer buddy# We now have his little girl all the time, shared with the mom, for the benefit of the baby. # We are over 40 so kids are no problem, he didnt have any of his own)Thats the past. Other than that little shocker that we had, we have had a wonderful marriage. We do everything together. We talk until all hours of the night, text all day while working ect and are always laughing with each other. He is sorry for what happened. He has stepped up to the plate to do the right thing with his daughter and to make sure my fears are diminished. Ok: He has guy night every wed, no big deal but its wed. Monday he had guy night with his friend "john Doe" came home at 10pm. Ok, no big deal but he kept wed night but said he'd be home around 7:30, i thought, "Thats better" at least we can do dinner since he was gone Monday. Wed at 7:30 I texted him, are you on your way home, Im thinking dinner around 8pm. His friend John Doe who lives an hour away had decided to meet up with some woman he knew from years past near our home. Hubby says, Im making a quick stop at @@ bar to meet John Doe and his new girl friend who lives here in town, wont be late. Now Im mad, that 2 nights ditched for dinner. 30 min later I send another text explaining that Im not happy about it, he was just with him Monday and Im ditched for dinner twice. 45 min later I call him. I ask him who hes with. " John doe and his girl "friend" from way back" Is that ALL? is there anyone else there? ( My past paranoia) well....um...we're saving you a seat come on down he says. WHY would you be saving ME a seat when I never told you I was coming and was waiting on you to come home? " Well...ummm" At that point I asked again...who else is there, just you 3? hullo? anser me...Um well..no...she brought a firend too. I blew up. I tell him fine see you at home but instead head to the bar where there they are, hubby, John Doe and 3 single women. I blew my stack. walked over, grabbed the pitcher of beer, dumped it on hubby and walked out. Saved the screaming for home. We never yell or fight by the way. He swears up and down and in tears that he didnt know these women would be there. So why did John Doe need you to be his wingman? Why didnt you leave when the women "showed up"? bad decisions Id say. How did it look for me to show up and see you, Johnm Doe and 3 single women outside on the bar patio drinking and laughing. Am I not supposed to be very angry here? 45 yr old married men do NOT need to meet their single buddies at bars with girls! . Please be detailed for me. I know we can all jump to conclusions so I'm trying to stay rational here. I'm STILL angry. HE said he didn't know the women or their names and they had showed up as I was on phone with him. When he hung up phone went back to table and they were there. Friends of this other girl. I don't care my point is that it MAY be true however you didn't need to meet john doe and his girl "friend" as a 3rd party then stutter whebn I ask you who else is there and stammer "well she brought a friend with her". WHY. He said John doe called said " I hope I didn't cause problems".
Now, dont type back and say OMG dump him. We are married, cant just dump a house & kids that fast and I love my husband, HOWEVER...I want to make sure of how I reacted ( which HE said considering the ppast he did understand totally)
