This is a turning point in your life, and in your child's life. What you do next will be the cornerstone that frames your identity for the rest of your life, and your child's life.
All of these traumas: getting beat up, kicked, money, jewelry, police, rent, wages, rumors, etc., is all the garbage associated with being very unhappy with yourself as a person. You've not cared enough about yourself to walk away from these painful, damaging episodes. You've allowed yourself to be a victim.
This does not exonerate him. He is wrong and sounds like an abusive, dangerous man. You can make sure you've contacted the appropriate authorities about anything he did to you that is a reportable offense, but taking some sort of revenge will only demean you and perhaps get you in trouble with the law.
You can really only do something about yourself--and by parental association, do something about and for your child.
I'm not going to suggest that you "leave it", but you must learn to let go of it--to be able to move on and make something of yourself.
Letting go does not mean "letting him off the hook." Letting go does not mean forgetting everything. To the contrary, to be able to let go, you must dive in and embrace it all, learning everything you can about this mess so you can learn to never be in this type of mess again.
Letting go is about
--resolving whatever issues can be resolved in a lawful, adult manner
--understanding how and why you got in this situation in the first place
--understanding why you allowed yourself to become pregnant with an abusive man
--understanding why you got all the way to five months in a pregnancy before realizing you were 'falling out of love' with a man who apparently tortured you
--understanding that revenge is a useless and potentially dangerous response
--taking responsibility for your participation in this relationship
--taking responsibility for any harm you did in the relationship (yes, it always 'takes two', no matter that he was aggregiously wrong and abusive--you participated in this)
--learning how YOU can behave differently in the future; never mind him--he's going to do whatever he wants to do
--learning how to have a successful relationship with yourself before trying to have a relationship with a partner
--learning to love and respect yourself enough to seek positive, nourishing relationships
--learning how you can teach your child all the good things in life--revenge NOT being one of those things
--eventually learning how to pick a good partner and having a loving, nurturing relationship
Letting go is a lot of hard work.
Letting go is a process that takes time and hard work to achieve. You need a counselor or mentor to help you. Do not dismiss this suggestion. You need a one-to-one connection with a professional. If money is an issue, there are many resources for low-income clients. But it will take time and effort to find the right counselor.
You'll have to sit down in a quiet place and ask yourself if you and your child's futures are worth the effort.
Forget about revenge. Understand that revenge is essentially anger, and there are many ways to work out anger besides taking revenge. The important, long-lasting ways to discharge anger have nothing to do with revenge.
So ask yourself if you want to handle this in an adult manner that sets a positive course for the rest of your life, or if you want to grovel in the same kind of muck that your ex dragged you down into.
Now that you've heard what I and others have said, if you participate in vengeful actions (or encourage others to do so), you will not be able to say that you "didn't know what you were doing". You cannot escape the fact that you now know seeking revenge will likely have a seriously negative outcome.
I'm sure you'll do the right thing because I believe that most people really want to do the right thing. I know you'll want your little baby to be proud of you.
Best of luck!
Marie Martin
On-Line Life and Weight Management Coach