I am not naive, thank you world.

Hi CJ, Looking back at how my mom treated me and how my friend’s parents treated them, my opinion, I don’t think that there is anything that you can say that will change the way that they treat you. The only thing that you can do is work your plan and plan your work. Your parents will always be your parents and you will always be who you are to them until you show them otherwise. You may be exhibiting some behaviors that make them worry, but it could just be their perception of things. Whatever you choose to do, don’t burn your bridges. With my mom, like I told you before, I had to take my freedom. I worked 2 jobs to save money so I could get out of the house. When my mom saw that I was taking responsibility and getting my life together she slowly let go. From then on the only thing she would say to me was, “As long as you’re happy.” She even stopped giving me unsolicited advice. Live your life CJ. Things will work out in the end. You’ll see.

You need to set boundaries and live by them.

You must realize that it is not your responsibility to make your parents happy.

There. Your question has been answered in less than 25 words.

Best wishes,

Jay

As long as you live in the same house as your mother you will be always instructed and corrected. The best way to prove that you are independent is to find yourself a small apartment, visit your mom as often as YOU like and keep contact with her via telephone.

Hi CJ, What your mom is doing is normal They want the best for their children. I remember my mom to be very protective of us children. She never let us watch any free movies in the park. I was raised in the Philippines. Sometimes Coca Cola or Pepsi Cola would show a free movie at the park, this was when I was 16 years old. I'm now 55. All the kids in the neighborhood were allowed by their parents to watch those movies. I was always upset with my mom because she was very strict. She was a school teacher. The reason why she did not let us go out was that she was afraid something would happen bad to us or we would get pregnant and won't finish college. I thank God that we finished college. After I finished Nursing at 22 years old, I decided to work very far from home. I applied in Manila and was accepted so I was able to get out of the house. My mom was a perfectionist and a nagger. I worked in Manila for 3 years and was lucky to find a contract in New York as an RN. I left the Philippines in 1980. I did not have any relatives or friends in the U.S. but I was so happy to get out of the country and very far from my mom. Life was tough at first but I slowly adjusted to the way of life in the U.S. Being away from parents, you have the freedom to do whatever you want to do, but always remember that when you make a mistake, you are the one who will suffer the consequences, not your parents. I just caution you to be careful in selecting friends or boyfriends because they can either steer you in the right or wrong direction. You are a professional now and an adult so live your life the way you want to live it. Parents are always there to listen to you if you have problems. So it's good that you're going to move out and spread your wings. When you become a parent in the future, you will realize how your mom is feeling right now and you'll understand why they are very overprotective. So take care and show your parents that you are capable of making your own decisions.