So messed up!!!

Sounds like this is a situation that's gone from bad to worse. The fact that he had sex with another girl and right behind that you willingly had sex with him is down right scary. On top of that you are leading with your bottom instead of your head. Each of you need a cooling off period where there are no more phone calls or dates, or SEX (what are you doing or using for protection?) And if you decide to take this advice make an appointment with  Gyn Dr to make sure you don't have aids or STD's. Once the cooling off period is over then sit down and has things out about where, what, or when the two of you plan to do with your lives.

Hi Firstly you both need to step back from your relationship. My suggestion is to both sit down separately and write down what your must and must not haves are in a relationship.  It seems neither of you know what you want at this time. By doing this exercise you will know what you want in a relationship and your ideal partner. It is surprising after doing this how it focus's you on what you want rather than just putting up with an ok partner. I had been married for 25 years when my husband told me he had been unfaithful for all that time. The great news is that we are now in the ultimate relationship rather than what was an ok relationship. I am telling you this so that you do not spend years in an ok relationship, know what you want from the beginning. Visualise the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and write down everything you want in that person and how you want him to be with you. I am a relationship coach and I have worked with many clients around meeting the right person. check out

First of all it is good that you are willing to acknowledge that you are so messed up and I hope to help you see the reasons why. Two months is not a long time apart even though when you're in it and going through it at times it feel like forever.So the fact that you two are trying to maintain a close relationship so soon is not helping the healing process at all.If you really love each other and know that you will eventually get back together, then just get back together now! Oh you cant because he's still chasing booty and you're chasing the wind and a dreamy fairytale love story. It'll take longer than you think if you're going to sit around waiting for him to get over someone else that he either just met two months ago or have been cheating on you with anyway! He wants to stay single cause he get to enjoy himself more! He get to go out and get some and fall for someone else and if it doesn't work there's always you hanging on! Listen, it's time you grow up!Start from scratch with you just means keep you hanging on while he try to solidify his relationship with someone else. What will you do if they work it out? You'll be the brokenhearted dreamer on the other end of the phone crying please don't leave me...again...I'll wait...again...longer this time...I promise!  Stop being willing to set yourself up for a let down!Forgive all you want but  move on and make no future plans and promises of being together...he's not. T rust but varify and stop being silly. read your post three times to yourself and then read this advice again. Yea he's going to hurt you again, why? Because it's so easy to and you blindly set yourself up for it. If you're mad at my comment, good, now picture him saying these things to you! Why? Because he is!