What is the deffinition of passive agressive ...

Passive aggresive is when the person is angry but they tell you everything is fine. But since they are angry they get back at you in other ways.

For example if you complain about the way he did laundry then he says to himself " OK I'll never do laundry for you again as long as we're thogether. "  It is an immature way to act. The mature way to act would be to tell you what I'm thinking such as " If you wanted your laundy done in such  and such a way you should have told me beforhand."   The anger is out there but at least you can talk about it and discuss it, forgive each other and move on. The problem with passive aggresion is that people are angry but they don't discuss it.

This is the shortest "clinical" definition of Passive-Aggressive behavior.

Passive-aggressive behavior is a pattern of expressing your negative feelings in an indirect way, instead of openly addressing them.

People who are passive-aggressive appear to agree with the requests of others. They may even seem enthusiastic about them. But they don't perform a requested action on time or in a useful way, and may even work against it. In other words, they use nonverbal behavior to express anger or resentment that they can't express verbally. An example is showing up very late to a meeting that you didn't really want to attend and then making up excuses for your lateness that deflect attention from the real reason you were late.

Signs and symptoms of passive-aggressive behavior are things like:

Resentment and opposition to the demands of others

Complaining about feeling underappreciated or cheated

Procrastination

Stubbornness

Inefficiency

Memory lapses

Sullenness

Irritability

Cynical attitude

Although passive-aggressive behavior can be a feature of some psychiatric disorders, it isn't considered a mental illness. Researchers are studying how to classify habitual and problematic behaviors such as passive-aggressiveness.

first of all. passive-aggressive-behaviour is not a mental illness. it is a result of facts, a response of the personality to certain real things. it is, in short, the reaction to a certain pattern of orders, mostly received from parents in early years: do this, than that, and don't forget to... - mostly these order-givers were weak personalities who had unnerving ways of speaking, like army-generals, or thes were mothers with wimpy, mouse-like voices. hate is the result, and a wish: "I will never obey others!" because people but CLING to those who bore and educated them, they cling to the way they reacted to them - they keep "not obeying orders". agr.pass. personalities are able to EXTREME LOVE ADDICTION, to drugs of each kind, to "killing time with doing nothing but thinking about how to stop killing time". they do that to keep the position of ALWAYS BEING FREE WHAT TO DO" active. there is NO WAY to turn a switch in their mind to change it, the only ay to change that behaviour is, well, to train different behaviour. which means a behavioural therapie, where you simply train by many reproductions (like golf or dancing or tennis...) to behave different in certain constellations. it often fails, because these people are proud of being what they are. that agr-pass. often is the base for becoming a star...an artist. life is not fair, it just functions.