Hello to all. I would love to let you all know ...

It is much more healthy to turn your anger outwards towards its proper target and wish your ex-boyfriend was dead.  You're right to be upset, but there isn't much you can do besides move on.  It's better that you found out what a jerk he is now instead of later.  Now you can turn your attention on yourself and making yourself feel good.  Get out and make new friends or go on a trip.  Do things, anything, but especially things you couldn't do with your ex.  Rediscover who you are without him.  You didn't need him before you met him, and you don't need him now (especially knowing what a louse he is).

Lorraine ~

He may very well love you, but as a friend.  If he wanted the relationship to be more intimate, he would have married you.  You need to find yourself a man that loves all of you, that wants you as much as you want him.  I know it's hard . . . . especially when you feel you are getting older, but there are some great men out there just waiting for you to be available.  You shared something very special with this man.  Don't turn it ugly because he needed something else.  Bob was right ~ you need to find yourself again.  You have so many gifts to share and a new world to explore.  He has started a new life.  It is time for you to spread your wings.

Hi, Lorraine, you don't really have a question to answer. But I guess this guy must be something special. I hope he is worth the pain you're going through.

He must have been a truly wonderful loving man for you to feel this strongly for him even after he lied to you and betrayed you. And although the humiliation must be too much to bear, you'd probably take his phone call or return his email if he should contact you again.

After all you've done for him, trusted him and confided in him, he should at least have been faithful to you. Isn't it awful how he just used up all of the beautiful things you are that? What does he do in return? Tells you he loves YOU. Then he marries someone else. Maybe he doesn't really love her. Maybe one day, if you wait for him, he'll come to his senses and divorce that ugly woman and come back to you. By then, he'll have learned from his mistake and be so happy that you waited for him that he'll be that man that you need him to be. You could forget how badly he mistreated you. You will never have to doubt his fidelity to you because he would have changed for you. You won't ever have to be suspicious of him when he talks to other women or when you two are apart.

But maybe he isn't all that wonderful after all. Maybe he wasn't worth all the beautiful things you gave him. You definitely should never ever speak to him again. He apparently doesn't deserve to have you mourning for him. And he definitely doesn't deserve you giving up your life for him!! Didn't you already do that? Waste your life away on a liar and a cheater? What ever you thought he was is all an ILLUSION. In your mind you built an image of a good man and projected it on an empty shell. You should immediately find a dependable rebound guy. just a little crush on a cute guy even though nothing will come of it. Its a great salve for the wounded pride.

I hope that you don't waste years of your life like I did for a very talented actor who convinced me that we would spend the rest of our lives together. I found my husband on eHarmony and we are extremely thrilled to have married each other. When you finish mourning the death of your illusionary man which you must do, actively search for a man with the purpose of commitment. Try eHarmony. the other sites are just meat markets. God bless your endeavors. My heart is with you.

Lorraine ,  Profitbob is right gave him 2 thumbs up .   You have to move on with your life , and find a man who will love , honor ,cherish and respect you .  This man now has a wife , if he loved you this would not be the case .