Can a married man and a married woman whose spouses have never met them be friends?

Hi,
No offence, please: I am not sure nothing really happend (in any case they would deny it) but I am sure that if you didn't interfere it would have happen sooner or later.   In many cases it's an indication that something is wrong in your relations.   You tend to show normal happy trustfull relations I have the feeling that you give a picture that doesn't meet the reality..... (sorry).  If I am right I strongly recommend that you work hard on improving your relations.
Best regards,

Your husband says to you that he will never cross that line but...he has already crossed the line.  When I was growing up my Father used to say that married men and women should not be friends with someone of the opposite sex.  I always thought he was crazy and old fashioned but with more years, and therefore more experience, I now realize he was right.  The truth is that when a married man and a married woman become friends "outside" of their marriage, they are asking for trouble. 

 If everything is on the up and up why did your husband lie about talking to her? I think the answer to that is that he knew he was in the wrong.  You also state that she had an affair with his buddy and she lied to you about knowing your husband.  That establishes that she is a liar and a cheat.  Not surprising, since lying and cheating always go hand in hand.  If we are defined by the company we keep, what does this say about your husband? I suggest you let your husband  know immediately that he already crossed a line and insist that this "relationship" ceases.

Bottom line here...your spouse should respect reasonable boundaries, which he is not doing.  Ask him if friendship with this person is worth his marriage.

It doesn't sound like you've gotten many straight answers here, does it?! I mean from the parties involved, Jada Lynne's was pretty good. What you've got here is another woman fishing in your pond, and your man is nibbling at the hook. The "stories" are likely the result of the parties involved seeing some kind of value in the scenario. If he thought you would freak out at his connection with this other woman, then he probably felt it was wrong to continue. I don't think he would talk to her for so long without sex being a motive. Sounds kind of like they've been in a phone-dating ritual to me. Why would he care how she's doing if nothing else was going on? If you know men and women "think" differently, then you will recognize that trusting a man not to cheat inherently involves some doubt as to whether he will or not, so you should never clear any man of all doubt. Make your expectations and level of trust clear to him, because you cannot control the actions of the "other woman". Most times all a guy will do is nibble until they feel guilty enough and quit, and that sounds like what you've got here.

hi hope this helps, i know this road, and she will try and call again you will have to stay on top of this.if you don't see calls on the phone then go into recent call list incomming and outgoing, i just have to wonder where she came from? i don't trust his answer about the buddy? hmmm? here's how i see it ok, if he is talking with her on the phone then he is not in the marrage 100% because it's wrong thats all there is to it. and if he takes the calls well it's on him then. also you may have to call her and tell her to stop calling right now.and maybe you can try and turn your marrage around but you can't do it by yourself he has to be there too, hope everything works out for you , and she is enterfairing, take care

hi hope this helps, i know this road, and she will try and call again you will have to stay on top of this.if you don't see calls on the phone then go into recent call list incomming and outgoing, i just have to wonder where she came from? i don't trust his answer about the buddy? hmmm? here's how i see it ok, if he is talking with her on the phone then he is not in the marrage 100% because it's wrong thats all there is to it. and if he takes the calls well it's on him then. also you may have to call her and tell her to stop calling right now.and maybe you can try and turn your marrage around but you can't do it by yourself he has to be there too, hope everything works out for you , and she is enterfairing, take care

I just found out that my husband of 8 years and 18 years together, had an emotional affair with a girl he went to school with the entire time I was pregnant with our son. He told me it because an inappropriate flirting phone relationship but he did want to sleep with her. Bottom line, married men and single women or married women should not be friends. He started helping her with personal problems and it escalated. Even after he "ended" the inappropriateness the day our son was born, he continued to talk to her day and night because he said he was in control. I just found out last week and made him call her in front of me and tell her it was over and that i knew everything and they could not talk ever again. I trusted him and did not pay attention to phone bills, instant messager, emails, texting, etc. He was not intimate with her because she lives in a neighboring state but wanted to. We have had to redefine our boundaries and I am making him take all the girls off his AIM that he knows from school and making him cancel his Facebook account. I don't even care. I feel I should have monitored these things before. I would not let your husband have an inch. If you did not interfere, believe me, it would have gone further.