Telling your significant other you want a divorce is one of the scariest, most emotional things a person can do. Not only is it difficult for you, but it will also be crushing for the other person. Never spontaneously drop this information. Always plan ahead, so you are composed and present your wishes clearly..
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Make sure that you are completely sure of your decision. Speak to a marriage counselor
or other professional if you have not already.
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Step 2
Take time to think about what you are going to say. Rush into the conversation hastily and you may say things you will regret. Plan out how you want to begin the conversation.
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Step 3
Plan a place to go after you tell your spouse you want a divorce. You may need to leave right away. Have a place to stay lined up so that you can give your spouse some space after the conversation.
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Step 4
Use the word "I" instead of making "you" statements. If you focus on how you are feeling, your partner is less likely to feel attacked. Stick to talking about your feelings and desires.
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Step 5
Keep a cool head after you tell your partner you want a divorce. There is a good chance he will react badly. Even if he tries to provoke you into a fight, you need to stay calm.
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Step 6
Stay compassionate during the conversation. You are already telling your partner that you do not want to stay married to her. Her feelings will already be hurt, so there is no need to push any more buttons or dwell on her shortcomings.
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Prepare your spouse in advance by mentioning the idea. This may make it easier than springing it out of nowhere.
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If your partner is physically abusive, you may not want to have a face-to-face conversation or let him know where you are going. Your safety is the top priority.
