My husband and I were seperated for one year. We got back together because I lost my job and nd because of my 11 year old son whom I love very much. We've been back together for 6 months. We have been intimate twice, and hardly communicate about anything except our son and his job. I'v tryed get him open up but this isn't working. Last but not least we sleep in seperate rooms even when my son isn't home for the weekend. What Should I do? I would like to leave but that isn't my diet mentally because I don't have a job and because of my son.
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Still Separated!
D'you know something? You didn't tell me why you separated a year ago! And, of course, that opens up the obvious question: Did you ever discuss why you separated in the first place and try to resolve the reasons before you got back together?
I had a sign in my office that stated that "the way out of a problem is through it."
Get it? You need to discuss the reasons for your separation and resolve your differences. For when two individuals get together in a marriage, they bring to it different lifestyles and values. Don't ever assume that he sees the world the way you do. Every one of us has their personal way of looking at things.
So sit down with him and talk about what bothers you. Risk a disagreement. But, even better, go to my website -face on the left - and check out 'Private Realities.'
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Give some time to yourself and to your husband. Things will work out and eventually you guys will get along with each other.
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This is the solution to most marital situations! Believe it or not, the secret is to STEP AWAY FROM YOUR PROBLEMS and spend your time and energy doing specific relationship building activities.
It's counter-intuitive, but if you do this, most of your problems will dissipate, the threat of divorce will go away, and the other people invading your marriage will become irrelevant.
Svot, before you deal with your problems, you first have to build good will with your spouse. And this is doable even in the most difficult marital situations.
Svot, if your marriage is stressed, do NOT tackle your problems. Stop talking about the affair, the attention you're not getting, or whatever. If your timing is off, trying to solve your problems will damage your marriage and make it LESS LIKELY that you'll ever find resolution.
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