An addict spouse needs only one thing--more drugs. Maybe you feel like it would be wrong for you to divorce a spouce who needs you so badly. You did not exactly say what you meant here. Are you feeling guilty for wanting to divorce him/her? An addict will drag you down or get you in trouble for guilt by association. The law will find drugs some day in your home and they won't necessarily believe it when you say they are not yours. Your mate may even want to get you hooked also so you will quit saying anything to them about quiting. Have you ask your mate about giving up drugs? They probably didn't want to. An addict loves drugs more than anything, including you. You may as well get wise to that fact and plan carefully what you are going to do. I'm sorry to say this but it is just the truth.
Is your partner abusive? If so get out twice as fast. Don't waste time feeling sorry for a drug addict. This is not longer the person you married. This is a drug talking. You are now married to a DRUG. You can't change him/her. You must now take care of your own life. If you are abused find a shelter for abused women if you are a woman. You can talk to a policeman about where you might also, man or woman. Often an minister or priest can offer help. A mental health clinic is another place to seek guidance. Some of these people should be able to help guide you. As you have been told two times before, you will need a lawyer to get a divorce. They handle the legal side of it. They can give guidance as well. You must see that you are protected through this process. Your partner will likely be angry when he/she finds out you are going for a divorce. Social services in most communities can give some help and guidance. It isn't the easiest thing you have done but it can be done and it may be the smartest move for you. Best wishes and God bless. Funguy.
