My wife and i have been getting farther and ...

My friend i think see has as her computer is proof enough by its self as many men and women have a love life on the computor but you say you want to work thins out with her but as sorry as i am to say it you lost her a long time ago when she started an on line love affair with this other man she did not want space or time to think about it. She was in a relationship with anouther man befor you knew it and this relationship went on. Yes breaking up is hard to do as you still love her but face the facts you are now out of the picture as with your 3 children so instead of fighting it move on as you state she wants to move on with her life and does not want anything to do with you and your children.As much as i hate to say this but i must as i have seen this before and the outcome is always the same its called D-I-V-O-R-C-E is your only way to go with this. Now you can get the C Drive or hard drive in her computer and prove your case to an attorney as it contains all letters to this outher man who she will meet in Scotland and have her love affaire with this person and that my friend is Adultry to add to your case. Now be smart and try to move on with out her and keep your children with you as this may be only the beginning of whats to come and do you want your cuildren subjected to one affair agter anouther till she finds her self. Move on with your life just get out and start over is your best bet. Sorry to be this blunt but this happens more than you think.

Lawbug AMEN ! Thumb up .

Ron , I am sorry for you and your children .   Lawbug is right , your wife left you long ago .  She started engaging another man on line .  She is committing emotional infidelity at best next stop adultery .  You can't install enough things on her computer to stop this .  You confronted her and she doesn't care . She mentioned divorce to you , if I were you I'd take her up on it .  Remember there are worse things than being alone , like being in a relationship and still being alone .  Take care of yourself and your children . God Bless you and your family .

Hi, Sorry but I do not agree with the other two comments. A wife and three children are worth fighting for, especially since you do love her.

It takes time but once before she fell in love with you, and you need to get her to fall in love with you all over again. Snooping will not help, so give her her privacy and space that she needs. Treat her like someone that you have just met and are interested in going into a relationship with. In other words, pretend that you have just met her nad have not been married to her.

If you manage to pull it off ( I did in a similar situation) you will never regret it.

Good Luck.

I also do not agree with the first two answers. Voice your opinion strongly and make it clear that relationships even on the computer, can destroy a marriage. Yes, you have to take your chances. That's what it's all about! She might leave you. And, if that happens, nothing is lost. But, unless you stand up and voice your opinion about what is proper in marriage - and computer relationships definitely are not - your marriage will fail. You are entitled to your share of attention and, unless you can face the consequences, e.g. a failed marriage, you will not accomplish anything.