How do I really know if I should give up on my marriage? I've been with my husband for five years and married three. I have two children together. I love him but I feel as if we are two totally different people now. There are things I've asked him to stop or change and he says he will but that only last for about a week. He can not keep a job. It is constantly putting us into financial problems. He has also lied to me off and on over the years about taking pain pills. I find them in his truck all the time. I'm not sure why he feels so bad that he tries to self medicate his self. He sleeps all the time while I take care of our children. I have finally moved out and have my children with me. I feel better now that I have got away some. But he is also giving me a really bad guilt trip. He calls me crying and begging me to come back. It is making me doubt my decision. But I know if I end up moving back that he will not change and I will want out again. I think I have taken the first and hardest step. I just feeling the guilty. So how do you know when its really over?
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Oh, It's over, In time, if he gets his act together give him another change but it will take time. The pills have to stop before anything can happen, and you know this.
don't allow him to manipulate you. You know you did the right thing. Does he see the kids? If not, you should stop talking to him. If he does, only talk to him when it is about seeing the kids. You are free to be happy now and enjoy life. Don't go back to a bad situation just because he lays a guilt trip on you. He will never change and you should be glad you got out sooner than later.
after reading ur question my answer is ur correct.u had taken good decision, now uwill be happy wid ur kids, take divorce marry a person who lovesu all d best bye
This advice is great if you want answers to make you feel better. And these answers are fine if you do not answer to God! The era is do what makes you feel good. These answers are of no moral fortitude.
Pills and a bad husband are not grounds for divorce. If you want a real life answer on a concrete foundation of truth then here it is.
Dont go back! Dont get Divorced! If he is crying and begging you have him nuetralized and in a position where he will most likely negotiate. Get him help, see his progress over the next year and see him on a date night once a week and allow the kids to continue to see him as much as they like. if they are alienated from him then gently get them back in front of him when he sobers up.
If there is a medical condition for self medicating such as an injury then this needs to be addressed as well.
Marriage is a commitment/not a choice. Difference when you choose you can change your mind. Commitment means for Better or WORSE.
There is also a chance and I am not saying this is the case but it takes to make a marriage fail. Is there a slight chance that he is escaping the pain of life withthe pills? If so you must do some serious self examination. We are all selfish creatures, and we all take more than we give. To truly get what you want out of life or anything/anyone else you must give more than you take. this is the opposite of what we usually do.
There are 3 reasons God allows divorce:AdulteryDeathWhen a non-believing spouse chooses to leave we can let them go but, we are not to leave first.
This may not be the advice you seek but, it is without a doubt the only truth to your answer.
Remember, feelings will lie to you. Truth even when it feels impossible is truth!
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