Is it possible to be in love with two people at ...

I think that you can be in lust with two people at the same time, and i think you can be infatuated with two people at the same time, but real love ~ where you feel lost without them, where you just want to die if they leave you, where you share everything with them???  No, I don't believe you can feel that strongly about 2 different people at the same time.

The simple answer is yes. One must truly understand what love is and what it means to be "in love". As I understand it, love is a complicated issue that can't be summed up in one sentence or generalized to satisfy the general populous of society. Love is more than an emotion. Love can be felt, given, desired and is a concept that is made up of many other elements such as compassion, understanding, sensitivity, affection, sexuality, trust and even sacrifice and pain. There is no rule book or standard code governing who one can or should love or how many one can love at a time. The human heart is a complex application and as we only use 10 to 30% of our brain capacity, we've only begun to understand the depth of the human heart, not to mention the Heart of God. Even understanding of the human psyche is incomplete, disputed and can not be generalized. We are all as unique and respond to our environments and our stimuli uniquely as a fingerprint.

We are programmable and vulnerable animals of subjective intellect. I may adopt or be conditioned to respect a philosophy or code of monogamy or we can live a less religiously or culturally restrictive life and  with an open non-prejudice spirit that is receptive and giving of oneself to  more than one partner. This is not just lust! If your emotion and thoughts are invested into more than one person and you wish to be with both of them because of what they both offer emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually then that's just the way you feel weather you parents or your friends or your preacher or the presidents thinks it's right or wrong.

I have myself been in love with more than one person at the same time. They were best friends and for almost 2 years the 3 of us were very close and nearly inseparable. I'll call them "L" & "B". L was my girlfriend that I was madly in love with for many reasons. She introduced me to her best friend B and we kicked it off instantly. B quickly became my best friend. They both possessed similar qualities that I appreciated and adored in both but also had unique characteristics that I cherished. I soon found myself having a great amount of love and compassion and affection for both of them. I wanted to protect them both and became very emotionally vulnerable to them both. I told them both that I was in love with both of them and it was difficult for everyone at first. We talked it out and came to a mature understanding. I was even sexually attracted to both of them and almost had a manage tux. I never did hook up with B but the fact of the matter is that I WAS IN LOVE WITH THEM BOTH! I have been sexually attracted to or lusted after more than one woman at a time and have not been in love with any of them. I am a man, of course. But this situation was unique. And I am not the only person who feels this way.

Most people are programmed with a Judaio-Christian, Republican mind set that says you have to be a monogamist but the truth is that there are a multitude of cultures and religions that support and defend my argument much more impressively than I, with more grace and clarity. You must find the truth for yourself and know if you can cope with that type of lifestyle and if your potential partners can as well.

I totaly disagree with with the not very wise Ali..If U are truley in Love with someone then I think it is imposable to be in Love with another..It would mean that U would be unfaithful to the other..Which in turn would cause much heartach and pain to the other..So if U are truley in Love with them then U would never want to cause them pain like that!!.....Peace....TLA..

I would be very interested in Miss Ladybird elaborating on how she developed that philosophy. What school of thought she studied to obtain that knowledge. In many religions and cultures and religions, having multiple partners is accepted and even incuraged. It's not neccisarily that you would hurt your partner if you were to indulge in that life style, it's rather or not you and your partner can accept and cope with it. I never said it was for everybody. Obviously not for weak minded, inside the box thinkers who have an underdeveloped  and generic since of love. Faithfulness, or more accuratly, loyalty does not have to be limited to one person as long as everyone is informed.

Bottom line... The question asked originaly was..."Is it possible to be in love with two people at once"? The answer clearly is yes. Weather or not it will cause pain or if it's right or wrong for you is surcumstantial and must be dealt with on a case by case basis. Stop putting us in boxes and trying to comform to philosophies that are convenient and comfortable to you and your own life styles.

Peace and Eternal, limetless love

I do not think it is possible to be in  " Love " with two people .  I do think you can have feelings for both but true love , no .   I have a little experience here in this . I could not make up my mind about 2 guys , granted I was young , but could not decide between the two .  TILL # 3 entered the picture and I realized I loved neither of them .  Number 3 turned out to be my late husband of 20 years plus. 

Hi there! I think that a possibility is that you do not appreciate yourself fully. I'm sure you are puzzle????. Well, is just an idea, I have been attracted to more than one person at the time, and at the end I found out that my self esteem was low. If we do not love ourselves, we cannot love anybody. I think that we women, many times look for happiness outside of ourselves and in a partner. The reality is that happiness is a choice, and no matter if you choose one, or none or both, you can be happy or miserable. It is your choice. I do not agreed with Wise Ali in that love can be in more than two persons, it is easy for the person that has the two loves, what would he think if his girlfriend has another love? Maybe he will say that is no problem, but that will be in theory. teh majority of philosophies and sociaties that promote more than one partner, are the men having more women.

In nature everything is a duality, and that is no Judaio-Christian. Look at nature and you will see, Jin and Jang, darkness-light, female-male, etc. I think that love should be to grow together. As Antoine Exupery said in "The Little Prince", love is when two people look in the same direction. Maybe you can be attracted to both, but there is one that looks in the same direction that you, in all levels.

With all respect, this came to your life for you to do some soul searching, and I'm sure that's what you are doing, as I'm sure that between all the answer you will find yours.

Good Luck!

How many animals in "nature" (as if humans are not animals or in nature) have multiple partners? How many of thoes animals submit to that lifestyle? (Male lions vs Female, domesticated cats & dogs, etc...) And please don't tell me that "animals" don't have the copacity to love!

*http://dsc.discovery.com/news/2006/11/02/freelove_ani.html

*In the animal kingdom, when it comes to mating, promiscuity is the rule rather than the exception. About 90 percent of mammals have multiple mates, and cheating on social mates is observed in almost all species. In fact, only 3 to 10 percent of mammals are even socially monogamous.In the animal kingdom, when it comes to mating, promiscuity is the rule rather than the exception. About 90 percent of mammals have multiple mates, and cheating on social mates is observed in almost all species. In fact, only 3 to 10 percent of mammals are even socially monogamous.   http://www.pbs.org/wnet/nature/episodes/what-females-want/real-swingers-of-the-animal-kingdom/831/

Duality in the animal kingdom is nice but not the rule or the regular. Please research befor making statements of fact. Never give a person information based on your feelings or opinions. tHEY HAVE A Tendency to be wrong often and subjective. Study all the available information befor you make a discision. Sex and love are not the same thing and do not depend on each other to exsist or qualify.

If animals were aware of or capable of getting STD's, I bet they would become more monogamous very quickly!  It has been a while Wise!  Welcome back!

Balance was talking about the duality of life, not the sexual habits of furry things, Wise.  I don't agree that loving two people at the same time is a sign of poor self esteem. I just think that for most people who experience it, later on they will tell you that they either thought they loved both, didn't actually love either of them, or had mistaken sexual attraction for love.  I don't see it as duality either.  I call that polarity.  Each thing having its polar opposite to keep the world balanced.  Which has little to do with a person loving two people at the same time.  I think I'm done now!