Fights are usually about something much deeper then what it may seem. When I was growing up my parents fought all the time over dumb things like who finished the milk and did not buy a new carton. After years of experience I come to realize that those fights were about consideration for one another, not about milk. Each fight has something behind it. Either miscommunication, being considerate of the other person, and respect can come out in different fights. A fight about who will take me to my baseball practice was really about 'If you loved me you would offer to take him and allow me to do the things I need to do'. Their relationship was at a rocky point and they would pick to fight over dumb things instead of taking about the true underlying problem. His was a quick fix. I learned to decode these fights starting at a young age since they happened so often. It wasn't until my parents started seeing a therapist that the fights dissolved a bit and they had better communication with one another.