My live in boyfriend goes online and looks at porn ...

I don't think that watching porn is a big deal - I watch porn and I'm a female in a loving relationship. It's naughty, exciting and doesn't impact on my relationship at all. I'm open about it, and tease my boyfriend when I've found his porn on the computer. Try watching your filthiest fantasies online (come on, we all have them!) and then judge your boyfriend. You might find your perspective changes...x

Hi,

    Your boyfriend is addicted to porn.  If you don't like that behavior in a boyfriend, it's time to find  a man who has the same moral beliefs like you, otherwise if you'll continue with this relationship and end up marrying him, you will just be miserable because pornography is already a part of his being and you can't change that.

It is good to see that most of the people here are not telling you to change the way you feel about this(take a look at some of the other questions about porn.. Crikey!). Many women feel the way you do.  When they enter a relationship, they want to be the one that their husband thinks of sexually, they do not want to have to worry about him constantly looking at, or fantasizing about other women. For many women, this is cheating.  Period.  There is no "oh get over it", or "that's the way men are". They want to know that they are enough for their mate.  I think that when you said that he does not care that much about your feelings, you hit the nail right on the head.  The definition of addiction (any kind, but here we are talking about porn addiction), is that it becomes unmanageable and that it has a negative impact financially, in relationship and professionally. 
I agree with others here about the necessity for you to get into counseling for you.

Good Luck!

Elena

porn isn't a big deal and you shouldn't be a prude about it

Hi. My husband is addicted to porn as well. I know where you are coming from. The bottom line is this, every behavior i s okay if both partners are fine with it. If one partner, you, isnt comfortable with the porn then something needs to be done.

My husband would look at porn  even when i was at home. If i left the room for a couple of min he would be on downloading porn. I told him while i have no problem with porn itself, i didnt like him viewing it with me right there. Your situation might be different. Tell him how you feel. Would you mind him looking at porn if you werent there? Does the idea of porn bother you? Just be honest with him and yourself. I hope this helps.

Hi Kaydence,

    Your husband does not respect you.  He watched porn even when you're around.  I don't know how you could live with a man who does not care about your feelings.

Hi db . Nice to meet you. My husband was (is) addicted to porn. I would leave the room for a couple of min and he would pop on the computer and look at women. This went on for over 2 years. It finally came down to me or the porn. It shouldnt be that way, but it was. We now go to therapy and are trying to make this work. Like i said before, porn is okay as long as two people are okay with it. If one isnt, then its a no-go. Sorry for the long winded response. Its a touchy subject w/ith me.

Kaydence,

   I hope that with therapy, your husband will change his ways about porn.  I don't believe in making porn a part of a good marriage.  It's just my opinion.  If my boyfriend would do that to me, then i think I am not going to tolerate that kind of behavior.