Simply put....."the opposite of LOVE is not HATE...it is...Indifference....
His actions clearly show he is not 'indifferent' toward you...OR...
Perhaps his new wife has a part in what he does toward you....speaking as a divorced mother of two,who had no choice but to file for divorce inorder to receive child support funds because my ex simply stopped contributing to the financial needs of the house we had bought as a couple when he moved out and into the "girlfriends" apt,I should have put my children in the car and driven as far away as possible to begin a new life. Instead I stayed in the home which was less then three miles from where he lived. He NEVER came to see his children...and I mean NEVER...even when I called and asked him to for many reasons.
The best thing any woman can do is get as far away from him as possible. As for your child...you must love her enough so that she will grow to know she lost nothing in lossing the man who contributed his sperm to her birth.
Why does he continue to take you to court??? First,he must be able to afford the cost of an attorney....I personally paid more then $300 an hour every time I hired one....and am still paying the loan back to the bank for the last court date.
Get as far away from him as possible and love your daughter. My children are grown now and do see and realize what and who the 'sperm donor'..ie:their father really is....someone they have no use for as he had no use for them so many years ago.
Question....does the court make him pay 'your attorney' fees when nothing results from the false issues brought to court?
Your life and your childs have no place for that man and his games. It all comes down to a simple ..'control issue' on his part....so it sounds like you are lucky you are not still his wife...now, move and refuse to be 'his victim'.