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BettyB (Female, 48) I just discovered that my ...

BettyB (Female, 48) I just discovered that my boyfriend of 6 years is e-mailing othe women and watching porn in his lap-top! what do i do, leave him or confront him? if i confront him, he will know i have been checking! is this cheating?? i'm just sick of the whole thing!


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love2loveu22
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Life is lessons in love. No regrets. 

You're in a tough situation. I think if you want to try to save your relationship, you need to confront your boyfriend. You can explain to him that you were not snooping (assuming you were not actually snooping) and that you are not comfortable with him emailing other women and looking at pornography online. You can suggest couples counseling, but there is no guarantee that this will save the relationship (although it could help you learn to communicate better). Good luck!
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Some similar questions have been posted here before , here is one. Porn is almost always related to masturbation. Each person should be own a "private world" were no one interferes. Its Ok if he watches , you can even join , if you think that he is over doing it on your expense then there might be a problem. Its normal don't worry. 

 
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E-mailing other women isn't typically a good sign. Watching porn is an individual choice but as stated above, can be helpful and satisfying especially if you watch it together. Checking his e-mail is what he will be upset about. That, to me, shows that there's a problem of trust somewhere for some reason.
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I have to disagree with the claims that this is normal/acceptable behavior. Prior to online porn, my hubby & I had a good relationship;we both enjoyed sex. But after he discovered porn, he became so addicted to it & pleasing himself that things fell apart in bed. It led to fights,huge bills and eventually him cheating. Not saying this will happen to you but you NEED to take steps now to prevent this. Be honest,open & fair with how you feel and why you looked at his computer. Find a neutral place to talk it out. If he cares, he'll try to take the steps to iron out any problems.
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