Thank you for helping me, because I am very confused about this. I think you are right, the thing is very difficult to talk to, like you said to do. If I try to talk to her, she is the most defensive person I have ever known, and you really cannot get 2 words in without her snapping your head off. The thing is, she doesn't think she is in the "wrong"!! She thinks she is right about everything, and she never, ever apologizes to me?? I think the last time she apologized to me was when she hurt me ,physically when I was younger.I know she loves me, but I am really up set. It was almost the last straw, I know she's had a hard life, and just got over cancer, but she cannot continually take her problems out on me her whole life. Thank you, I am considering, but my gut is saying, No.And that really hurts because I did not want my daughter to be affected in any way with her Grandmother. I always supported a good relationship, and still do, but my daughter saw how upset I was the last time, she hugged me for a very long time.It was really sad.